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An interesting thread. I am in my 50s, and both my wife and I received pretty poor guidance from our respective parents when we were thinking about what to do after school—the advice was well-intentioned but limited by the relatively narrow career and life experiences of those giving it.
When it came to guiding my own children, I took a more relaxed approach. I did arrange for both to have coffees and chats with friends from as many industries and professions as possible. This was not to persuade them to follow a specific route, but rather an effort to give them an inside view of various jobs and professions.
I am, however, increasingly sceptical of the value of many modern degrees, especially in the UK where I live, because you can easily graduate with £50k of debt. The university experience is certainly worthwhile, but beginning to look for work with that much debt in a highly competitive job market does not make sense for a lot of young people. Though, as an earlier poster pointed out, the Irish model is relatively cheaper, especially in Dublin where many students live at home.
That said, like all parents, I do have an idea of the strengths and weaknesses of each of my children, and over time they seem to be following academic and career paths that will play to their strengths. We have done a lot to support them, but they have to develop the skills and experience necessary to follow their own paths in life, and I believe that the more we do for them, the less they can do for themselves.
I would also add that I, for one, would have made an awful job of predicting what careers or jobs would be in high demand now had I tried to choose the most lucrative career path thirty years ago, and I think the same applies now.
When it came to guiding my own children, I took a more relaxed approach. I did arrange for both to have coffees and chats with friends from as many industries and professions as possible. This was not to persuade them to follow a specific route, but rather an effort to give them an inside view of various jobs and professions.
I am, however, increasingly sceptical of the value of many modern degrees, especially in the UK where I live, because you can easily graduate with £50k of debt. The university experience is certainly worthwhile, but beginning to look for work with that much debt in a highly competitive job market does not make sense for a lot of young people. Though, as an earlier poster pointed out, the Irish model is relatively cheaper, especially in Dublin where many students live at home.
That said, like all parents, I do have an idea of the strengths and weaknesses of each of my children, and over time they seem to be following academic and career paths that will play to their strengths. We have done a lot to support them, but they have to develop the skills and experience necessary to follow their own paths in life, and I believe that the more we do for them, the less they can do for themselves.
I would also add that I, for one, would have made an awful job of predicting what careers or jobs would be in high demand now had I tried to choose the most lucrative career path thirty years ago, and I think the same applies now.