Calling women "Girls"

Discussion in 'Letting Off Steam' started by Purple, Jun 12, 2017.

  1. Sue Ellen

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    Possibly old fashioned at this stage but 'lady' does appeal more :)
     
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  2. Firefly

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    Always a lady to us Sue Ellen :)
     
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  3. Purple

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    Absolutely!
     
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  4. Dan Murray

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    Speak for yourselves Firefly and Purple!

    ....Sue Ellen is frequently kind
    And she's suddenly cruel
    She can do as she pleases
    She's nobody's fool
    And she can't be convicted
    She's earned her degree
    And the most she will do
    Is throw shadows at you

    But she's always a woman to me
     
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  6. mathepac

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    In the Wesht they take it to the limits with "girleen" and indeed "ladeen". How do the "burds" and "fellahs" feel about those?
     
  7. S.L.F

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    Yeah well feminists don't even recognise which gender is which
     
  8. Thirsty

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    Yes it does, and it isn't any better when women do it. Referring to an adult male African-American as 'boy' will get you into trouble; I feel the same way about 'girl'.

    I've no idea what this remark is supposed to mean?
     
  9. Purple

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    I think I'd feel the same way if I was a woman. It just sounds demeaning, especially in a work context.
     
  10. thedaddyman

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  11. blueband

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    Its amazing how PC we have become in this country, everyone watching every word they say in case it offends someone else
     
  12. Purple

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    I do't see anything wrong with not being needlessly offensive. I don't think that means we are watching every word we say.
     
  13. blueband

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    I just don't see how referring to a female as a girl, woman, lady ect is offensive, would it be considered offensive to refer to a male as a man?
     
  14. Purple

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    In a work environment would it be okay to refer to your male colleague as a boy?
    "I'll get the boy who works for me to do that"
    "The boy from accounts will deal with your query"
     
  15. Thirsty

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    And there you have it in a nutshell!
     
  16. becky

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    I don't like the term lady. Why? Donno.

    When I'm going out, it's with the girls, not the ladies. My friend from Limerick goes out with the Women.

    My mom still refers to her children as the boys or the girls, the oldest is 49, youngest is 40.

    At work I roll eyes at emails from 'very' senior female managers who start the email with Ladies.

    It's Dear all or Colleagues. But obviously I never correct them.
     
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  17. S.L.F

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    Being an MRA (Men's Rights Activist/advocate) such as I am no matter what I say I'll get hate spewn at me on the internet.

    "You dare not mention equality without saying women are oppressed"....which is where people like me clench our fists and start throwing truth bombs around the place.

    The boys and girls thing is nonsense.

    My wife goes out with the girls, I go down to the boys.

    People need to stop this babying they have going on regarding language.
     
  18. Thirsty

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    "boys and girls thing is nonsense."

    Nonsense to whom?

    It's certainly not nonsense to me.

    The words we use reflect the attitudes we hold.

    Be careful of your thoughts, because your thoughts become your words, your words become your deeds, and your deeds become your character.
     
  19. Purple

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    I'll go out with the lads but I certainly wouldn't refer to a man in a work context as a boy.
    Do you really not see the difference?
     
  20. thedaddyman

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    And I'll go out with the lads too but if my boss asks me how was my weekend I'll probably say "not too bad boy" or words like that with my Cork twang and not think anything of it, and neither does he.

    To me it is not always the word that is important, it is the context and tone in which the word is used. If I'm doing a pitch to senior execs in a major company, I'll tailor my language appropriately and differently to if I'm having a conversation with people I've known for years.
     
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