Secret wedding- would you be offended if not invited

[Persia]

members of the family might unilaterally and privately make their own decisions on their own terms smacks of passive aggression, emotional blackmail, and perhaps even coercive control in my opinion.

So a typical Irish family

 

[ClubMan]

So a typical Irish family so

Not even sure that it's necessarily specific to Irish families to be honest having had dealings with several families of other nationalities...

 

[ClubMan]

BTW meant to say, in order to address the question posed in the thread title, that I, for one, wouldn't be at all offended if @newbiehelp didn't invite me to the wedding.

 

[Ruffian]

BTW meant to say, in order to address the question posed in the thread title, that I, for one, wouldn't be at all offended if @newbiehelp didn't invite me to the wedding.

I dunno. Since we have all been involved in the planning shouldn't we all expect an invite?

 

[newbiehelp]

Since we have all been involved in the planning shouldn't we all expect an invite?

If anyone wants to be a witness you’re more than welcome haha but I’d only need 2!

Reading through all the responses and having another discussion with the OH the ‘invite no one’ option is winning out ….

Hopefully everyone will be secretly happy we got married after so long …. No longer ‘living in sin’ and glad they didn’t have the expense of another wedding ….

If it doesn’t go that way and everyone is annoyed with us, expect another question here in a few months …. How to get our families to talk to us after marrying in secret …..

Thanks for all the responses and giggles … I can’t ‘react’ to any of the messages as I’m only a newbie ….

 

[misemoi]

Best of luck with the planning and celebration whatever you choose.