M
manus
Guest
I married my prod wife ( she does not find this offensive! ) last year. I had to get a letter of dispensation which is basically a letter saying that the catholic church gave me permission to marry a prod. My catholic parish priest also demanded to meet my wife to be. We were brought into a room with a massive table, i was told to sit at one end and herself had to sit at the other end while he sat in the middle. he tried to make write a written agreement to bring our kids up as catholics, which i refused. he then said that i had promised him i would previously ( i said i would think about it ). you could hear a pin drop in that room that day and the atmosphere was terrible. The only thing i regret is that i should have stood up, grabbed my wifes hand and walked out there and then. He made my wife to be at the time feel like a lower class form of life.Two of my best frends have gotten married to partners of the opposite religion. When one of the couples (CoI and Catholic) got married in a Protestant church there were no problems at all. When the other couple got married (Anglican and Catholic) got married in a Catholic church it was very problematic. The groom had to promise that their children would be raised Catholic and would only attend Catholic schools. Also Protestants at the cermony were not allowed to receive communion and instead were told to go up to the alter with their arms crossed and instead they would receive a blessing. Needless to say this caused great offense to many of the guests, of both religious persuasion.
I was going to have a prod/ catholic wedding but decided to go full prod after this experience.I also must say i could not have been made more welcome by the coi and the protestant community, they could not have been nicer to me. genuinely good people, and the reverend that married us is now a good friend of mine.