Initiating Divorce

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chloe99

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Back story
Together 2002
Married 2005
Separated albeit not legally 2014

Housing situation
He bought home in 2000 with ex bought her out
I had cooperative housing - he moved in 2002

We bought investment apt in 2003 in his name
Bought family home in joint names in 2004 a fair bit from Dublin
Plan was to sell once it made a profit and move up closer to Dublin as both were commuting to work in Dublin and 1 child ina school

2006 - mental health issues
I wanted to move back to be nearer to family he refused to sell
Crash happened equity in toilet
Eventually we moved 2010 to rented acc near work and rented out all houses
2014 he left
I continued in the rent acc with both kids he went to his original house
Fast forward both kids over 18
I want a divorce
He has agreed to mediation
I am paying €1800 rent on my own
He has rented out rooms in his own house throughout the separation
I want this to be as amicable and as fair as possible and to end quickly

Basically I want the 2 rented props sold so I can buy a home
He can keep his original home
Where do I stand I’m getting conflicting advice

Btw both public service pensions his a lot lot better than mine
He doesn’t pay any maintenance
Paid €100 pw
For the last child till she was 17
 
It's good that he is agreeable to mediation and not the extremely expensive and acrimonious route of litigation.

In mediation, the qualified mediator will act as fairly as possible to both sides and one that I know says he always has to tell people to leave emotions and other issues outside the door.

In a way, mediation is purely transactional but should leave both parties happy that the outcome was reasonable.

Probably impossible for anyone to give specific advise, but maybe meet with a mediator and have an initial consultancy These guys have a good reputation locally in Kildare https://browneandcomediation.ie/
 
Just to note that meditation can and hopefully will result in mutual agreement on some or all relevant issues relating to assets, maintenance, the children (if any are under 23), etc. But that still needs to be formalised via the divorce process, ideally with both spouses getting their own legal advice before any agreement is approved by the court/judge.
 
Thanks to both
I contacted the legal aid board I wasn’t sure if I qualified but they have advised there is no means test
I was told we would be assigned a mediator ina coupon of weeks
They will issue an email to both of to ensure we are both in agreement
I advised ex of what would be needed at the first meeting
Bank statements
Mortgage statements
Pension statements
Rent agreement s
Loans
Basically a SOM

Eldest dd is 27 youngest 19
Neither in full time education both working

I do not want nor do I think I am entitled to spousal support
I just want a home that I can call my own

Clubman - am aware the legal profession will have to sign off on divorce papers
I just want this all agreed so we are not lining the pockets when there is no need
 
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