Ok guys this is a long one for thanks for your patience in advance.
Let me give you some background
I am 22, my sister is 24, my mother is 50 and my dad is 52
Five years ago my Dad took redundancy from a company he worked for 25 years. He decided to go into business and opened up a shop, it failed after a year and put both my mam and dad under sever presure. My dad then worked as an Sales Agent for Acorn Life, that also failed. To cut a long story short he basically scraped by working for civil service for last year but that ended 3 months ago and the man is in severe depression as he cant get a job. We asked him could he please do Hackney driving and I would provide the money to start up in terms of car loan. He said he cant do it, now folks I know that sounds amazing but he doesnt get out of bed,he has been assesd for several nurses and went to doctors and sought help but he goes once and never goes back again as he says they dont help.
Here is my problem.
My mam is working part time and earning around 220 a week. I myself am paying my dads credit cards along with covering some bills along with my sister. My mam has no money as everything she earns pays bills. We have no mortgage left Thank god but my mam is living a life of missery and has been since my dad took retirement as he really hasnt had any solid income for 5 years. It has reached breaking point and me and my sister stepped in the other night and said this cannot go on. We told my dad months ago that if he isnt willing to do the hackney and cannot find a job then we will have to consider selling the house to raise funds as at the moment my Mam has NOTHING to live on, she has been shouldering his repsonsiliby for years now. I have lent my mam 10k but I cant go on lending her money because its only a short term solution. My dad simply will not do ANYTHING about this. I have now come to the realisation that he is not mentally able to work and this could take years to get him better, And unfortuanely we do not have years. Folks, in plain plian English, we have been struggling the last few years and now my Mam has NO MONEY left and her husband is not going to provide.
What we suggested is as follows.
They have to sell the house. They would recieve I think around 380k (valuation ordered for Tuesday). Say after tax and selling % they would be left with 170k each (I dont know the exact taxed, I need to find this out).
With that 170k they would need to rent somewhere,My mam would be ok as her pay would pay the rent and then she could use the money to live off. Realistically she would spend around 9k per year living. I want her to put 65k of this money into a 5 year bond so that in 5 years when her money runs out hopefully she will have a return of around 75k to then live off for the follwing 8/9 years. Now I hear you ask well what happens then?
Well I have decided that it will be down to me. I am looking to buy a house next Summer to get on the property ladder asap. My aim being that in 10/15 years when this money runs out I will have to invest in another property which my Mam can then live in rent free and call her own. I know this will put strain on me but what else can I do. WE HAVE NO MONEY, MY MAM IS UNDER ENORMOUS FINANCIAL AND HEALTH PRESSURE, THIS CANNOT GO ON. HER RELATIONS CANNOT HELP. LOANS ONLY ARE A SHORT TERM SOLUTION.APART FROM SELLING THE HOUSE WHAT OTHER SOLUTION DO WE HAVE? MY DAD WILL NOT GET OUT OF BED!!!!!
And folks I would appriciate the no one make suggesstions like "Well your dad will have to cop on and relaise what is going on" Trust me on this one it has been said not a million but a billion times. I really dont know what my dad will do. His Parents are still alive in Cork,He will have to go live with them. My mam and the rest of us are sick of him to a certain extent.although I do still love him but This post will be deleted if not edited immediately he makes it incredibly hard. I am a financial consultant myself but This post will be deleted if not edited immediately I have never came across this. I can advise my mam on various pension plans(well the house I buy in 10 years is her pension plan). and the bonds to invest in but Am i doing the right thing by saying we have to seel the house?
Cheers everyone,
I know selling the house is a massive massive step but it is that desperate!
Let me give you some background
I am 22, my sister is 24, my mother is 50 and my dad is 52
Five years ago my Dad took redundancy from a company he worked for 25 years. He decided to go into business and opened up a shop, it failed after a year and put both my mam and dad under sever presure. My dad then worked as an Sales Agent for Acorn Life, that also failed. To cut a long story short he basically scraped by working for civil service for last year but that ended 3 months ago and the man is in severe depression as he cant get a job. We asked him could he please do Hackney driving and I would provide the money to start up in terms of car loan. He said he cant do it, now folks I know that sounds amazing but he doesnt get out of bed,he has been assesd for several nurses and went to doctors and sought help but he goes once and never goes back again as he says they dont help.
Here is my problem.
My mam is working part time and earning around 220 a week. I myself am paying my dads credit cards along with covering some bills along with my sister. My mam has no money as everything she earns pays bills. We have no mortgage left Thank god but my mam is living a life of missery and has been since my dad took retirement as he really hasnt had any solid income for 5 years. It has reached breaking point and me and my sister stepped in the other night and said this cannot go on. We told my dad months ago that if he isnt willing to do the hackney and cannot find a job then we will have to consider selling the house to raise funds as at the moment my Mam has NOTHING to live on, she has been shouldering his repsonsiliby for years now. I have lent my mam 10k but I cant go on lending her money because its only a short term solution. My dad simply will not do ANYTHING about this. I have now come to the realisation that he is not mentally able to work and this could take years to get him better, And unfortuanely we do not have years. Folks, in plain plian English, we have been struggling the last few years and now my Mam has NO MONEY left and her husband is not going to provide.
What we suggested is as follows.
They have to sell the house. They would recieve I think around 380k (valuation ordered for Tuesday). Say after tax and selling % they would be left with 170k each (I dont know the exact taxed, I need to find this out).
With that 170k they would need to rent somewhere,My mam would be ok as her pay would pay the rent and then she could use the money to live off. Realistically she would spend around 9k per year living. I want her to put 65k of this money into a 5 year bond so that in 5 years when her money runs out hopefully she will have a return of around 75k to then live off for the follwing 8/9 years. Now I hear you ask well what happens then?
Well I have decided that it will be down to me. I am looking to buy a house next Summer to get on the property ladder asap. My aim being that in 10/15 years when this money runs out I will have to invest in another property which my Mam can then live in rent free and call her own. I know this will put strain on me but what else can I do. WE HAVE NO MONEY, MY MAM IS UNDER ENORMOUS FINANCIAL AND HEALTH PRESSURE, THIS CANNOT GO ON. HER RELATIONS CANNOT HELP. LOANS ONLY ARE A SHORT TERM SOLUTION.APART FROM SELLING THE HOUSE WHAT OTHER SOLUTION DO WE HAVE? MY DAD WILL NOT GET OUT OF BED!!!!!
And folks I would appriciate the no one make suggesstions like "Well your dad will have to cop on and relaise what is going on" Trust me on this one it has been said not a million but a billion times. I really dont know what my dad will do. His Parents are still alive in Cork,He will have to go live with them. My mam and the rest of us are sick of him to a certain extent.although I do still love him but This post will be deleted if not edited immediately he makes it incredibly hard. I am a financial consultant myself but This post will be deleted if not edited immediately I have never came across this. I can advise my mam on various pension plans(well the house I buy in 10 years is her pension plan). and the bonds to invest in but Am i doing the right thing by saying we have to seel the house?
Cheers everyone,
I know selling the house is a massive massive step but it is that desperate!