Dear Cowgirl,
please gather all of your paperwork, and as much of his as you can find, and make copies of everything - you will need them later. All bank and any other account numbers you can source - just file them, they may come in handy. I was in a similar situation when I was married a few years ago, and discoverd that my then husband had a secret bank account in NI, using a relative's address and his girlfriend posed as 'me' to joint-sign for a £16,000 loan.I had these details to forward to the tax office as I did not want to be liable for any debts he may have accrued while married as I was afraid I might have been liable for the payments. Keep every receipt for any purchases you have made for the house, furniture, repairs etc and keep them in your desk in work or somewhere he cannot access. With regards to the physical and mental violence, again write everything down, take photos if you need to ( hopefully not) - there is nothing to be ashamed of in telling a close friend or relative that you feel under threat - you may find as I did that people who care about you are already keeping an eye on you - he doesn't want to be inconvenienced by leaving the property and is trying to break you into going first - ask someone to move in with you if you can,and keep that diary - chin up, he will be out of your life soon but it won't be easy.... TessaW