300 a month seems very little to me to support a chil as if you break this down it is 300*12/52 = 69 odd euro a week. This would not go too far in paying for necessities like clothes,shoes etc... even if the mother were to contribute another 69 euro herself to match this can't see much room for saving for college her out of this.
Seems to me that your partner has been happily paying this but now your own family circumstances are about tochange and so want to change the amount paid. Maybe this is a high amount for maintenace (never been in this situation) but having two kids can see how much money they cost per week to feed,clothe etc.. 300 a month seems to be modest (again depends on what % this is of your partners take home pay)
Think how the mother of the child manages their finances is irrelevant to the question of how much maintenance should be paid.
Are you saying that he works for nothing?My partner is honest, hardworking and most of all a wonderful Dad..and he doesn't get paid by anyone for doing that.
Are you saying that he works for nothing?
No..misquoting there. He doesn't get paid any extra for being a father.
I agree that 300 euro a month seems very little – and no increase for a few years? My DP pays a huge amount more than that for his children and it is increased by rate of inflation every year – and we don’t complain about it. If you go to court you may find that the judge awards the child’s mother a big increase. It is certainly tactless of the ex to tell you what she spends the money on but that’s really none of your business. I presume the child is driven in the car and uses the furniture??? Be honest and fair - sit down and work out what it costs to run a home, a car, clothe, feed and educate a child and you will realise that you are doing well. And your dp’s ex is not getting “paid” to be a mother – your dp is simply handing over his share for the child that he helped create.
If you are truly concerned about the future college expenses and not just your change in lifestyle – then your dp should sit down and have a friendly chat with his ex and come up with a solution. Perhaps she would agree to forego an increase in the maintenance in order for your dp to put aside some money or maybe she would agree to a joint savings plan. If everything is amicable, it would be a shame to upset things now.
neither do the rest of us.
But mother's do and that's the law!
I believe it's called child support not payment for being a mother.
Well it is interesting that the state is very reluctant to pay things like CB and Early Childcare Supplement to the father rather than the mother unless you go to special lengths to get them to do this!
What specific statistics?Its probably based on statistics
What specific statistics?
I can see how the law will stay the way it is. Your obviously in the fathers deserve no rights corner.
He doesn't get paid any extra for being a father.
Sorry - I just assumed that since you were the one who mentioned statistics that you were aware of some that were relevant.I don't know of any specific statistics, do you? Maybe I can be enlightened. I'm sure there has to be some basis/research done for the law involving child support.
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