Hi!
Just looking for advice on how to help a friend.
He is 53 and has been diagnosed with PTSD following two situations of prolonged bullying at two different workplaces. First bullied seven years ago, over a period of a year, and was off for 3 months on sick leave.
Recently, last year, bullied severely again at another workplace over a period of two years. He has now been formally diagnosed with PTSD due to same. He has never gone back to work after last incident of bullying, and has now gone long-term sick with his salary protection.
However, despite having enough money, he is really grieving the loss of his career, suffering with a terrible shame about being bullied, and this seems to be worse for him due to being male - he feels he should have been able to stand up to the bullies. He is really stuck in the shock that people can be so nasty. He feels there is something intrinsically wrong with him because he was severely bullied in two workplaces. Really nice, genuine guy - not a pushover, but certainly not aggressive - so I too can't get to grips with why he was so badly bullied. Advice really welcome for very upset friend - feel there is little I can do to help how he feels.
Just looking for advice on how to help a friend.
He is 53 and has been diagnosed with PTSD following two situations of prolonged bullying at two different workplaces. First bullied seven years ago, over a period of a year, and was off for 3 months on sick leave.
Recently, last year, bullied severely again at another workplace over a period of two years. He has now been formally diagnosed with PTSD due to same. He has never gone back to work after last incident of bullying, and has now gone long-term sick with his salary protection.
However, despite having enough money, he is really grieving the loss of his career, suffering with a terrible shame about being bullied, and this seems to be worse for him due to being male - he feels he should have been able to stand up to the bullies. He is really stuck in the shock that people can be so nasty. He feels there is something intrinsically wrong with him because he was severely bullied in two workplaces. Really nice, genuine guy - not a pushover, but certainly not aggressive - so I too can't get to grips with why he was so badly bullied. Advice really welcome for very upset friend - feel there is little I can do to help how he feels.