Blueeyes123
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Hi all,
I'm a new member here and I hope someone can give me some advice, I'll try and keep this short, as its a long story.
Working for a large company for 6 years now, 6 years ago I started at the bottom and worked my way up to a better sales role. I am in this role now 3 years. 1 year ago my manager left and the new manager took over, who is a large bully, i.e. gets very angry so bad she looks like she'll physically hurt you.
Prior to the bully taking over, my performance was always over 150% Above targets, and everything was well.
Almost straight away in Jan 09 I saw there was a problem with the new manager, she started threatening me and was completely unreasonable, - not normal, she couldnt understand normal situations and was pushing for more to the point of unrealistic -- yet her own work was shocking.
I contacted HR straight away in Feb after another altercation with the bully, at this stage she had me breaking down twice - and in all the time I worked there I never once cried. I am now a bit of a wreck.
I had many conversations with my HR partner for my area for about 7 months - the HR person only ever gave me 1 option which was an informal sit down chat with her - bully - & me.
Eventually I agreed on a friday and over that weekend thought to myself if anyone else knew anything, i.e. the HR employees manager as I was scared once I sat down with the bully what would happen next.
I came in on the following Monday and sent the HR person an e-mail asking does anyone else know anything about the 7 months of conversations -& meetings, she reply NO. I cancelled the informal meeting straight away and proceeded to submit and cc the head of HR and the HR person with 7 examples & dates and times - a Formal complaint against the BULLY. This was conducted straight away by interviewing members of my team and myself and the bully, I was never asked to bring anyone in with me, yet the company always had 2 persons when I walked in. I found this very stressfull, as now the bully knew I had submitted the complaint. 2 weeks later I was called into a meeting to hear about the outcome, they fluffed it up, voice wise and advised me that I needed a break and that there was a clear breakdown in communication, so for a temporary period of 3 months I was to be moved to a new team, in the same room, and that I would get everything in writing. I agreed and with in 2 days, of talking & the 2 manager friends going out on smokes, I was called into a meeting with the new manager and was told my performance was bad and now I was being put onto a PIP, (performance improvement plan) I then proceeded to have what could be described as a mental breakdown, I left that day on sick leave and I have been out since.
I went to a solicitor and sent letters, the head of HR asked me to meet with him to discuss options, I had to drive a few hours to meet with this in the hopes to resolve things, he offered me 2 options, 1: stay put under the bully.
2: move to a department where I feel is a complete demotion.
none of these were fair.
So I requested an appeal, this time, The company made things hard for me and gave me an awful grilling, at this stage I was a complete wreck, breaking down 2-3 times in the one meeting.
1 week later, a few minutes to the deadline for receiving the appeal outcome, I received an e-mail that now paints me in an even worse light.
My solicitor has replied saying I need to be offered some department permanently or if they could bring in an independent to re- examine everything.
Can someone tell me where to go with this now? or what are my possible options. The bully is still in her manager role and happy out, I suffered big time, had a misscarriage a few days after walking out on sick leave and I am now on unpaid leave. I had faith in the company at one stage - but now feel very hard done by?
Thanks in advance sorry for the length of the post.
Blueeyes.
I'm a new member here and I hope someone can give me some advice, I'll try and keep this short, as its a long story.
Working for a large company for 6 years now, 6 years ago I started at the bottom and worked my way up to a better sales role. I am in this role now 3 years. 1 year ago my manager left and the new manager took over, who is a large bully, i.e. gets very angry so bad she looks like she'll physically hurt you.
Prior to the bully taking over, my performance was always over 150% Above targets, and everything was well.
Almost straight away in Jan 09 I saw there was a problem with the new manager, she started threatening me and was completely unreasonable, - not normal, she couldnt understand normal situations and was pushing for more to the point of unrealistic -- yet her own work was shocking.
I contacted HR straight away in Feb after another altercation with the bully, at this stage she had me breaking down twice - and in all the time I worked there I never once cried. I am now a bit of a wreck.
I had many conversations with my HR partner for my area for about 7 months - the HR person only ever gave me 1 option which was an informal sit down chat with her - bully - & me.
Eventually I agreed on a friday and over that weekend thought to myself if anyone else knew anything, i.e. the HR employees manager as I was scared once I sat down with the bully what would happen next.
I came in on the following Monday and sent the HR person an e-mail asking does anyone else know anything about the 7 months of conversations -& meetings, she reply NO. I cancelled the informal meeting straight away and proceeded to submit and cc the head of HR and the HR person with 7 examples & dates and times - a Formal complaint against the BULLY. This was conducted straight away by interviewing members of my team and myself and the bully, I was never asked to bring anyone in with me, yet the company always had 2 persons when I walked in. I found this very stressfull, as now the bully knew I had submitted the complaint. 2 weeks later I was called into a meeting to hear about the outcome, they fluffed it up, voice wise and advised me that I needed a break and that there was a clear breakdown in communication, so for a temporary period of 3 months I was to be moved to a new team, in the same room, and that I would get everything in writing. I agreed and with in 2 days, of talking & the 2 manager friends going out on smokes, I was called into a meeting with the new manager and was told my performance was bad and now I was being put onto a PIP, (performance improvement plan) I then proceeded to have what could be described as a mental breakdown, I left that day on sick leave and I have been out since.
I went to a solicitor and sent letters, the head of HR asked me to meet with him to discuss options, I had to drive a few hours to meet with this in the hopes to resolve things, he offered me 2 options, 1: stay put under the bully.
2: move to a department where I feel is a complete demotion.
none of these were fair.
So I requested an appeal, this time, The company made things hard for me and gave me an awful grilling, at this stage I was a complete wreck, breaking down 2-3 times in the one meeting.
1 week later, a few minutes to the deadline for receiving the appeal outcome, I received an e-mail that now paints me in an even worse light.
My solicitor has replied saying I need to be offered some department permanently or if they could bring in an independent to re- examine everything.
Can someone tell me where to go with this now? or what are my possible options. The bully is still in her manager role and happy out, I suffered big time, had a misscarriage a few days after walking out on sick leave and I am now on unpaid leave. I had faith in the company at one stage - but now feel very hard done by?
Thanks in advance sorry for the length of the post.
Blueeyes.