The answer is the IFI (no connection, just a fan).
Great setting, great movies, great staff. All this and only decent human adults watching so it's nice and quiet and respectful.
Ok they don't have the gimicks of 3D and supersized lazy boy seats, but they do have great festivals and themes running.
For film buffs they also have Q&A sessions with various people after a showing.
I still go the local cinema, but tend to shell out for the VIP room which is small, roomy and you don't get kids. Occasionally I have to sit in with the proles and always promise myself never again. Sticky carpets, popcorn everywhere, noise and my biggest bug: late comers. How hard is it to use that invention known as the watch?