will i lose medical card for disabled child if i marry

[netty_05]

hiya,

im a single mum with 3 children, my eldest is 13 he has downs syndrome and epilepsy, he is severly brain damaged he needs a wheelchair and is on lots of medications,

i have a kidney disease for the last ten years i have been in rimision unfortunatly it is affecting me again, i am also on lots of meds,

i currently recive carers allowance as i am a full time carer, (half rate)
and full rate lone parents,

i have been with my current partner 2 years, he lives a few miles away, but he asked me to marry him on valentines, which i am thrilled,
this is were all the hard parts come in and i dont know where i will stand with the medical cards, and also the careres allowance,

he doesn't earn very much, i know i would have to give up the lone parents, but would i still recive some carers all?

also would me and my son be accepted for vhi r similar with such serious conditions?

any help would be gratefullly recived,

i just dont know if this would be a step up or a step right down the ladder,

thanks,

netty