Wedding gift - not attending wedding

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dillsquatt

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I have been invited to a work colleagues wedding - shocked to receive invite, no idea why I was invited. I am invited on my own, a few other colleagues invited but very few from my work. I cannot go to wedding as on holiday but just wondered what is acceptable in monetary terms as a gift if not attending wedding.

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Would you normally have a collection at work on such occasions for a group present? If you do I would stick with that and give the usual contribution.
 
I wouldn't feel obliged to give them anything. It's not as if you have a close relationship, by the sounds of it. Send a decline card and leave it at that. I can't imagine a couple would be grabby enough to expect a gift from anyone who doesn't go to their wedding.
 
Have had the same experience before.

If you can find out something about their interests, then a gift/vouchur is good.

A good restaurant near their locality, that will reasonably cover the cost of a starter/main course for two and a maybe a bottle of wine.

If they play golf - a round of golf at a good golf course.

ditto, horseracing, LoI, GAA (season tickets, framed jerseys signed by players etc)

Tickets to an event, theatre, concert etc.

The gesture of a good gift, regardless of price, will outweigh any cash gift for years to come and may be cheaper than a flat cash amount.
 
Is the wedding a church wedding? I would get a mass said in their honour and give them a mass card when you send on the decline to the wedding. I am sure they will be very appreciative of the gesture.

If it is a secular wedding I would make a donation to a charity on their behalf and let them know, a quick google search throws up lots of ideas. You will probably get a card saying a donation has been made to the organisation on behalf of … without any reference to the actual amount.

It was a nice gesture for them to invite you and these are nice gestures in return.
 
thanks for all the replies, yeah making up numbers, RSVP date has long passed so last minute. Will probably give small present though really I dont know them on a personal sense.
 
Interesting how people are so easily offended! Irish Heart Foundation or Irish Cancer Society deal with issues that will probably affect every family at some stage. Better than some dust gatherer present

Going back to the original Q - a nice card is probably sufficient
 
fistophobia said:
Getting a wedding invitation... these days, its like a summons arriving in the post.
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Hate getting invites, same boring stuff time and time again, costs a fortune between gift, new clothes, hotel stay, travel etc. Small family affairs are so much nicer and far less stressful. Don't get me goin' on giving out about hen and stag parties abroad too and how that must add to the costs along with the same stupid drunken carry-on. I think I'll go back to bed and get out the other side and maybe I won't be so cranky today :D
 
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