Siblings encouraged my mother to change her will

Discussion in 'Wills, inheritances and gifts' started by Rhodeboy, 23 Jan 2013.

  1. Rhodeboy

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    Thank you all for kind and helpful replies.
    The house sold eventually in 2017. I received a cheque for 28k as my share. Solicitor representing estate to this day has refused to provide executors accounts. My brother and sister took 5 figure sums from the sale in lieu of expenses incurred over past number of years. The buyer of the property did a part cash deal with my sister , however he will not admit to this officially. I no longer speak with my sister and brother and have put this sad episode behind me. I believe that people arent evil , but good people do bad things.
    Where there is a will there is a fight as they say.
     
  2. noproblem

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    Very sorry for you and your family Rhodeboy but sadly this is a lot more commonplace than people might believe. Good to see that after 5 years you've come to finality on it and next thing is to get it out of your system and totally let it go. One last thing for you and it may give you some closure. Write a letter to your 2 siblings, short and sweet but hitting the nail on the head, wish them luck with what they've done and let them know that ill-health and bad luck are possible results of their dubious efforts but not something you wish on them, then write a final goodbye and let them know it's final. You may think they're tough but I assure you this will play on their consciences for eternity. Afterwards, close the book, karma will do the rest. Good luck in your life and enjoy it.
     
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  3. Pugmister

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    You have my sympathies. Very similar situation occurred between my mother and her sister and their late brother. A will was changed close to the death of her brother however doctors indicated for a year previous that a mental evaluation be carried out on their brother. This was refuted time and time again by her sister and we never knew why. Turns out the sisters solicitor took over the affairs of her brothers estate. My mum was left 80k, her sister and nieces were left millions. The original will which we have since seen left everything 50/50 between my mum and sister.
     
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  4. Obrien

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    Had the Doctor and new Solicitor any real rights to do so four years after official diagnosis of your late Mother's diagnosis, it seems irregular, especially as the Doctor was retired. I would imagine that she would not be deemed competent to change the will, or make any financial decisions, regardless of there being a Doctor there at the time.
     
  5. Rhodeboy

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    Thank you to everybody that has replied. It is so sad that some people put money ahead of family.
     
  6. Bronte

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    Thank you very much for coming back to us on this.

    Since this original thread we discovered a cousin of ours got a house (left to children/deceased parents children - but tied up until a child died, who since died) put in his name by his executor parent secretly, hoping that parent, the executor would die, executor now mentally ill and in a home, and that we'd never be unable to unravel it. We did unravel it though. In our case it's not for the money that we pursued this. It's peanuts. It was the principle. It is of some small satisfaction that my dead parent was vidicated though. Leaving the executors family up to high dough in the town. And as this affected a few families they all outraged at what went down.

    One of my parents physically wrote the will of the uncle, when he was in a home, I got a copy of this will about 30 years ago, as you can, to see what happened. Signed in the home by the doctor there etc. And it stood. The will then left everthing to my parent and two siblings and left out two other siblings. All deliberate by my parent.

    I could tell you worse in relation to a prominent solicitor but let's leave it there.

    I wish you well Rhodeboy. And readers on here, you have been warned.
     
  7. Rhodeboy

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    Unfortunately it' the way the law is structured. All the rules were adhered to in principle, the attending doctor conducted no tests to establis mental capacity. He even had to correct the date of birth and addresses on the cert confirming my mother' mental capacity.
    The burden is firmly on the person challenging the will along with the financial risk. Executors are indemnified personally from a financial view.
     
  8. Buddyboy

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    Yes, some people.... but not you. And you can hold your head up in that knowledge.
    As someone here said, life is short, and you appear to have put it behind you.
    Good luck