I'm travelling to a wedding in Europe in six weeks and am wondering what the current protocol is for giving a present for a couple who are marrying abroad?
I'm friends with the groom, although I haven't seen much of him in the past year or two as he's had to move to another part of the country for work. The couple are getting married abroad for financial reasons - they want to keep the numbers low. It's proving to be pretty expensive because there are no options when it comes to flights, it's only serviced by one airline. So between flights and accommodation it's a minimum E700 for two of us for about four days - and that's without food, drinks etc.
Personally I kind of resent having to get a present as I think we're spending enough going there. They didn't put anything on the invitation re presents so I'm guessing they expect one. Technically I can afford one but as it's in a country I have never had any desire to visit, I feel I'm spending enough. At the same time, I know from experience how people can hold grudges over wedding presents/lack of and I don't want to create bad blood for the sake of a few euro.
Has anyone any suggestions on whether or not to give a gift? Or for some sort of token gift that wouldn't be deemed 'scabby'? Any tips are much appreciated
I'm friends with the groom, although I haven't seen much of him in the past year or two as he's had to move to another part of the country for work. The couple are getting married abroad for financial reasons - they want to keep the numbers low. It's proving to be pretty expensive because there are no options when it comes to flights, it's only serviced by one airline. So between flights and accommodation it's a minimum E700 for two of us for about four days - and that's without food, drinks etc.
Personally I kind of resent having to get a present as I think we're spending enough going there. They didn't put anything on the invitation re presents so I'm guessing they expect one. Technically I can afford one but as it's in a country I have never had any desire to visit, I feel I'm spending enough. At the same time, I know from experience how people can hold grudges over wedding presents/lack of and I don't want to create bad blood for the sake of a few euro.
Has anyone any suggestions on whether or not to give a gift? Or for some sort of token gift that wouldn't be deemed 'scabby'? Any tips are much appreciated