Sylvester3
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Hi All, I have a rather sad tale to tell. I moved here a few years ago with my wife as she wanted to go to university, and I was able to get a job that supported us both while she did that. After she had completed, with my full and unhesitating support, a primary degree and a masters qualification she decided to return to England to take a PGCE. I was a little unhappy about this, but I wanted her to reach her goals and I continued to support her, sending money over on a monthly basis whilst she availed of student loans, hardship funds etc.
During our time here we bought a house just as the market was sliding. The property had slipped from 315,000 at the height of the market and we thought ourselves lucky to purchase it at 267,000. We didn't mind when the slide continued as we loved the house and it wasn't meant to be an investment. We are joint owners.
My wife has recently, very recently, told me she does not plan on coming back and wants to split up. There was no fault on either side, she just felt that she didn't love me as much as I loved her. As heartbroken as I am, I am trying to see the financial consequences of all this. We have no children, which makes things a little less complicated, but the house is going to remain with us for quite some time. A comparable house is on the market for 205,000, and our mortgage sat at 250,000 back in Jan 2011, so likely over 50k neg equity. We thankfully have a tracker at ECB + 0.9% (from First Active, now Ulster Bank) which I will hold onto come hell or high water.
I can manage the payments for the house without difficulty for the foreseeable future as I have a niche IT job which has always given me a good salary (currently 60k), but I don't know what responsibility and or rights my wife has. I have undertaken to continue sending over £400 (around €460) a month to help clear a CC we were both responsible for. I know she will have no problem at all in finding a teaching job in England (prob on £21k).
I hope this is clear. I am currently going through a pretty bad time, but people keep asking me "What about your house!?", so I thought I might as well focus on that.
During our time here we bought a house just as the market was sliding. The property had slipped from 315,000 at the height of the market and we thought ourselves lucky to purchase it at 267,000. We didn't mind when the slide continued as we loved the house and it wasn't meant to be an investment. We are joint owners.
My wife has recently, very recently, told me she does not plan on coming back and wants to split up. There was no fault on either side, she just felt that she didn't love me as much as I loved her. As heartbroken as I am, I am trying to see the financial consequences of all this. We have no children, which makes things a little less complicated, but the house is going to remain with us for quite some time. A comparable house is on the market for 205,000, and our mortgage sat at 250,000 back in Jan 2011, so likely over 50k neg equity. We thankfully have a tracker at ECB + 0.9% (from First Active, now Ulster Bank) which I will hold onto come hell or high water.
I can manage the payments for the house without difficulty for the foreseeable future as I have a niche IT job which has always given me a good salary (currently 60k), but I don't know what responsibility and or rights my wife has. I have undertaken to continue sending over £400 (around €460) a month to help clear a CC we were both responsible for. I know she will have no problem at all in finding a teaching job in England (prob on £21k).
I hope this is clear. I am currently going through a pretty bad time, but people keep asking me "What about your house!?", so I thought I might as well focus on that.