Hi. A relatives marriage has broken down, beyond repair. They like many others continue to cohabit. He has mental health issues which have made their marriage difficult. He is on medication for same. She wishes to now formally separate. However her main concern relates to custody. He is quite unstable psychologically. Can be ok somedays but mostly is distant, lacks any focus, gets easily distracted and stressed and is not "present" in the moment he often just sits staring into space. Says very little and doesnt engage meaningfully with kids or with her. He avoids parental duties and responsibilities. Regularly disappears with an excuse to be gone for an hour and might not come back for the whole day. Phone is always uncontactable which he blames on coverage. Some of this may be medication related. She doesnt know. He refuses to go to the GP despite threatening suicide on several occasions when he gets stressed out. They have two small kids. She is most concerned that a judge could grant him unsupervised access. She has never left the kids with him for longer than 20 mins and even then she is freaking out to get home as she knows how he can get distracted and wander off outside to his car or make a phone call while the toddlers could be climbing out a window etc. Fact is he would not be a safe guardian of the kids. Could a judge agree to this in light of his mental health difficulties ? Anyone any experience of custody arrangements. I thought they are usually joint arrangements ?
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