Anotherguy
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Hi all
My marriage isn’t going great and despite exhausting all the options to save it appears we have reached the end.
We have had discussions and agree in principle to separate amicably with both children going to live with their mother.
I have a very close relationship with my children and I want to continue have a fair share of my parental responsibilities i.e. having them over agreed days, maintainance payments etc.
We bought a house 2 ½ years ago with the Help-To-Buy (HTB) scheme and apart from this financial commitment we have no other assets.
The HTB scheme stipulates at least one of the owners has to live in the property for 5 years after which period we can sell without needing to pay anything back to Revenue. If the house is sold or rented within the 5 year period there is a "clawback" amount we have to pay back to Revenue.
Aside from the house we have agreed to clear the remaining debt of less than 5000 Euro soon as possible.
We have 2 children aged 8 & 13 and both work full time.
My mother lives with us and supports with every day chores, taking the children to school which also allows both of us to work full-time.
I understand that we have to complete an Affidavit of Means but beyond this point I don’t know which approach to consider for separation.
Looking at my situation (I think) the main sticking point is what to do with the house and what would be the best approach that it is fair to both parties? I have no problem with legally paying support to my children
Thanks for your time
My marriage isn’t going great and despite exhausting all the options to save it appears we have reached the end.
We have had discussions and agree in principle to separate amicably with both children going to live with their mother.
I have a very close relationship with my children and I want to continue have a fair share of my parental responsibilities i.e. having them over agreed days, maintainance payments etc.
We bought a house 2 ½ years ago with the Help-To-Buy (HTB) scheme and apart from this financial commitment we have no other assets.
The HTB scheme stipulates at least one of the owners has to live in the property for 5 years after which period we can sell without needing to pay anything back to Revenue. If the house is sold or rented within the 5 year period there is a "clawback" amount we have to pay back to Revenue.
Aside from the house we have agreed to clear the remaining debt of less than 5000 Euro soon as possible.
We have 2 children aged 8 & 13 and both work full time.
My mother lives with us and supports with every day chores, taking the children to school which also allows both of us to work full-time.
I understand that we have to complete an Affidavit of Means but beyond this point I don’t know which approach to consider for separation.
Looking at my situation (I think) the main sticking point is what to do with the house and what would be the best approach that it is fair to both parties? I have no problem with legally paying support to my children
Thanks for your time
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