Some kids may not want to go to college. This can be upsetting for parents who may have shelled out thousands for fee paying schools, in the hope of 'buying' a good leaving cert, in order to ensure a college place.
How can anyone "buy" a good leaving cert? I would have thought no matter what you pay or dont pay,that you cannot make a child study..
Also some parents who dont shell out thousands may also be upset if their kids dont want to go to college..
As another poster mentioned, the private school kids may not need qualifications and jobs as they can go into their parents business anyway. The middle class kids in public schools know they have to get qualifications and jobs, as their parents are not wealthy.
One would think that all kids who go to fee paying schools have parents who are very wealthy,this is not the case..
Do you really think that only middle class kids in public schools know they have to get qualifications and jobs because their parents are not wealthy?
The logic of that is very condescending to all those who are working hard to get a qualification no matter what type of school they are in..it smacks of the green eyed monster..
If I were you I would try to send kids to a public school in a middle class area. If their peers 'expect' to go to college and are not dossers, then your kids are more likely to do well at school and aim for college.
Its not like this is a choice for all parents..if you live in an area which isnt middle class,how do you suggest the child gets to go to school in an area,which may be a long way away,and may have feeder schools in the immediate area?
I don't know if parental support is important to encourage kids to go to college. I am in similar circumstances to Truthseeker. I had a rural working class background, went to a city school. Most of my peers 'expected' to go to college. In fact one friend (farming background, eldest of 11 said that in her house it is an understood thing that everone goes to college!!!!!)
Parental support is vital,it is expected in my home and all of my friends and family that the kids will go to college..why would anyone actively discourage them from educating themselves?
My parents discouraged me from spending time studying in secondary and felt that college was a lot of nonsense. This was in the late 80s. They had the idea that I was getting ideas above my station, aiming for college, even though I was naturally bright and got 6 honours in leaving cert. They made it crystal clear that they could or would not contribute towards college even though I was an only child and they could afford it. I had to try to get a college place in my hometown, then ensure I had my 4 honours for the grant. I would not be allowed go to college away from home, even if I applied for and got medicine, dentistry etc. (Our local college didn't offer these courses)
This is why most parents now encourage kids to go to college,times have moved on,and we are all more educated now..
I really valued my college place because I knew I had to fight like mad for every single thing that contributed to it. I had to fight to be allowed study at the weekends. I had to be very strong mentally because constant fights about spending too much time on homework every evening were likely to wear me down. I had chores to do at home so between these and studying I had no free time. I feel that teenagers today are really spoilt compared to what I (and I'm sure others) had to go through
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