My marriage is over, and as well as the psychological pain, I feel in a financial mess. I feel all over the place.The sad thing about this separation is that we have an 18 month old daughter. Without getting into too much detail, my wife (who is from another country) never settled in Ireland and complained all the time. Life was becoming more miserable (for both) as time went on. I thought that the absence of a child was the missing piece for her. We had the child, and to be honest she is even more miserable since, because she has to mind the child 'on her own' most of the time, when I work. She has never worked in Ireland, or ever tried to make an effort to integrate. Anyway, the marriage is over. So, counselling etc is not an option anymore.
What I am wondering is? She is not used to working now, and she wants to move back to her home country with our child. How am I going to support them? She is looking for more maintenance than I can afford. There is little or no social welfare in her home country.
No2. We have a house worth about 250k, with about 40 equity in it. It is in both our names. I will not be able to keep up the mortgage repayments and pay maintenance to her. If we sell the house, I will not get another mortgage as I am nearly 50 and my credit rating is not great as I settled a debt a few years ago. She has never worked in four years and I really resent having to pay to keep her when she goes back to Poland. I would do anything for my child though, and am willing to pay whatever is fair.
What I am wondering is? She is not used to working now, and she wants to move back to her home country with our child. How am I going to support them? She is looking for more maintenance than I can afford. There is little or no social welfare in her home country.
No2. We have a house worth about 250k, with about 40 equity in it. It is in both our names. I will not be able to keep up the mortgage repayments and pay maintenance to her. If we sell the house, I will not get another mortgage as I am nearly 50 and my credit rating is not great as I settled a debt a few years ago. She has never worked in four years and I really resent having to pay to keep her when she goes back to Poland. I would do anything for my child though, and am willing to pay whatever is fair.
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