My mother died 4 years ago and my father died last year. Assets straight forward just cash in banks (house was dealt with before they died). Two brothers are executors, one has bad blood with me and the others are all fine. My siblings and I took care of both my parents in every way imaginable and for the amount of care they both needed for many years without putting them into a nursing home was extraordinary. The eldest brother who has bad blood did zilch and I mean zilch to which he would even admit to.
My mother and father gave me a generous valuable asset before they died (5 years ago now) because I took care of the lions share of what could be described as a dysfunctional house for nearly 20 years and all hospital appt, treatments, admin, house management, you name it, I did it while rearing my own kids.
Anyway, when my mother was dying brother 1 was asking the whereabouts of this asset and I told him that it was given to me as a gift and I twice begged him to ask my mother (father had dementia) before she died and he didn't. She did mention this to her solicitor while making the will but had promised me the gift and told him to leave it off the will (did I say the dynamics could be dysfunctional !).
Anyway this brother has bad blood with me that I got this gift. Fast forward, I got texts from stonemason last week looking for payment of works done to the grave and I mentioned to brother 2 who is sound with me, enquiring on how probate was going, and brother 1 heard this after and went mad at him for discussing the probate with me and warned him not to tell me anything. Now I understand from posts on AAM, I am not entitled to ask so I left it at that.
My question is brother 2 has said that the solicitors are transferring the assets to their accounts and they were asked for bank account details but no mention of us. I thought that solicitors transferred the money directly to the beneficiaries (all siblings are equal beneficiaries) and I am hoping brother 1 is not trying to manoeuvre a smaller inheritance for me because of the gift. He has dabbled with this idea in conversation with brother 2 over the years. All other siblings are aware of the asset and are aware that Mum gave it to me, as my mother never did anything in a straight line she never told them so to be fair, they heard it from me. They also know I am rigid straight and I would never take anything that wasn't mine to take so they are fine. Should I be worried? hand on heart, I don't think so but all the same the unknown can make you get paranoid!
My mother and father gave me a generous valuable asset before they died (5 years ago now) because I took care of the lions share of what could be described as a dysfunctional house for nearly 20 years and all hospital appt, treatments, admin, house management, you name it, I did it while rearing my own kids.
Anyway, when my mother was dying brother 1 was asking the whereabouts of this asset and I told him that it was given to me as a gift and I twice begged him to ask my mother (father had dementia) before she died and he didn't. She did mention this to her solicitor while making the will but had promised me the gift and told him to leave it off the will (did I say the dynamics could be dysfunctional !).
Anyway this brother has bad blood with me that I got this gift. Fast forward, I got texts from stonemason last week looking for payment of works done to the grave and I mentioned to brother 2 who is sound with me, enquiring on how probate was going, and brother 1 heard this after and went mad at him for discussing the probate with me and warned him not to tell me anything. Now I understand from posts on AAM, I am not entitled to ask so I left it at that.
My question is brother 2 has said that the solicitors are transferring the assets to their accounts and they were asked for bank account details but no mention of us. I thought that solicitors transferred the money directly to the beneficiaries (all siblings are equal beneficiaries) and I am hoping brother 1 is not trying to manoeuvre a smaller inheritance for me because of the gift. He has dabbled with this idea in conversation with brother 2 over the years. All other siblings are aware of the asset and are aware that Mum gave it to me, as my mother never did anything in a straight line she never told them so to be fair, they heard it from me. They also know I am rigid straight and I would never take anything that wasn't mine to take so they are fine. Should I be worried? hand on heart, I don't think so but all the same the unknown can make you get paranoid!