My ex continually rings our kids during my access with the kids. If the kids ever want to speak to her during my weekend or holiday periods I always let them call without fail, but she always says to them when I am picking them up... "Will I call you every day when you're away?", which of course the kids will always answer, "yeah" as it's such a leading question. It is an invasion of my time with them. This is also against the backdrop of me having tried but failed to be allowed to talk to the kids at all when it is not my access time with them. They've also been denied the opportunity to speak to me when they have been on holidays. Is there a legal position on this? Or should I simply put a stop to it (notwithstanding when the kids actually express a desire to talk to their mum when with me).
Yes, unfortunately she has. Over the last few years I have repeatedly tried to set up a recurring weekly call at times when I am not seeing the children, but that has been ignored or refused. Whilst on her holiday with the kids (10+ days) for the last two years she has let me speak to the kids for only a few minutes. Aside from the fact I don't mind her speaking to the kids every few days, she makes multiple attempts to contact them every day. On a recent visit to my parents, she rang when we were watching a movie so I missed the call. She then rang and texted my father and rang the landline to get a response. It's inappropriate, I would have thought. My access is unfortunately limited to one afternoon and every second weekend.Is she stopping you ringing your children when they are with her?
Read the first post. It's in there.What is your question?
Reading through this and mention of irrational people and legal options 2 things jumped out at me. Firstly this is an over-protective mother and why is she so over-protective when you have the kids. ? I presume it is going back to the split but you need to step back and honestly consider her concerns and if they are justified and if they are, then what can you do about them.
Secondly, instead of being reactive to her questions about calling, why not try and be proactive instead. At the handover, why not say, ""right kids, we'll call Mammy tonight at 6 before we have food and the movie on the telly and you can tell her all about your day". That way she knows when you are going to call (and make sure you do it) and it may give her more reassurance.
Whats so bad about a Mother wanting to talk to her kids and them wanting to talk to her?. The real issue here in my view is not her ringing daily but its the fact that she won't allow you to talk to them daily and perhaps that is what you need to focus on more.
Whats so bad about a Mother wanting to talk to her kids and them wanting to talk to her?.
The issue here seems to be one of control. If this is the way she behaves after they split up then I think there is a strong likelihood that the father was a victim of coercive control during their relationship and she is still doing it, or trying to do it, now.Reading through this and mention of irrational people and legal options 2 things jumped out at me. Firstly this is an over-protective mother and why is she so over-protective when you have the kids. ? I presume it is going back to the split but you need to step back and honestly consider her concerns and if they are justified and if they are, then what can you do about them.
Secondly, instead of being reactive to her questions about calling, why not try and be proactive instead. At the handover, why not say, ""right kids, we'll call Mammy tonight at 6 before we have food and the movie on the telly and you can tell her all about your day". That way she knows when you are going to call (and make sure you do it) and it may give her more reassurance.
Whats so bad about a Mother wanting to talk to her kids and them wanting to talk to her?. The real issue here in my view is not her ringing daily but its the fact that she won't allow you to talk to them daily and perhaps that is what you need to focus on more.
Unfortunately when men are the victims of this sort of domestic abuse it just doesn't matter.
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