Yes mustang ‘horses for courses’ pun intended for those who can then yes do work as carer without care allowance that’s your choice. I will interject a little empathy here, walking in someone else’s moccasins, because all we will have in the end is love. We are responsible for our loved ones care but for pity sake have an ounce of empathy for carers, too many shills and ministers for hardship preferring to spend on military jets than on vulnerable citizens. I have family in this exact situation terrified for their 24 your old with severe disability and additional needs a son whose mother has to care for him now in her 60s, who has severe ill health herself, husband 70 with ill health. They have paid into the system all their working lives they are workers, their work for the state will never stop. Why shouldn’t they claim if they can for some assistance. It’s means tested. Really unless you have cared for a child with intellectual special or physical needs you don’t know what it feels like. Who will care for their adult child when they are gone. yes they have responsibility but so does the state if it is to pretend to be a state which cares for the health of its citizens, it’s part of the constitution. I cared for my mother at home a victim of a severe stroke she was bed bound, where was the state then. I did this as it was my responsibility out of love and obligation, she was doubly incontinent suffered cdifficile using hoist to lift, peg feed, dealt with mrsa, seizures, medication, a careless HSE, as my mother required 24 hour care. Those that could afford to paid and 20 years ago it cost at least 250,000 for carers 24 hour not even properly qualified. It takes a village. Not looking for hand out or sympathy just human rights. Care of an elderly relative is not the same as lifelong care of a child with special needs and I would not equate them, comparisons are odious as my mother used to say.
