Speak to the social worker in the hospital your dad is in outlining your concerns, he / she can arrange an assessment to determine if you dad is good enough to live at home on discharge from hospital.does anyone know where I can get advice on this?
Where a person needs constant care, then their own home may not be the place for them. The "home helps" will not be there 24 hours a day. The scope of what they can do is limited.If your dad is 100percent mentally then let him stay at home. Hell be much happier. If theres plenty of money get in home helps _ as many as needed. Anyone would be better off out of a nursing home.
This is sound advice.Speak to the social worker in the hospital your dad is in outlining your concerns, he / she can arrange an assessment to determine if you dad is good enough to live at home on discharge from hospital.
If your dad goes home, speak to the public health nurse in the local HSE centre. The PHN can visit your dad at home and assess his suitability for home living and advise accordingly.
That's terrible, very sorry to hear all of this. Be careful not to identify yourself with information on posts. Going on the above, Slim on Post No 10 was good advicethanks for all the replies.. you know - the story is too long - there is so much more to this but I would be ashamed to reveal everything here on line.. but I assure you that my bro does not give a dam about my Dad.. after all Dad got Covid from this bro would not get tested - Mum got Covid from Dad.. Mum passed away.. this bro has lost his licence due to drink driving.. the night Dad became unwell he had fallen and got up (Dad) - this bro knew about this but still asked Dad to bring him to the pub.. Dad came home - fell again - could no get up.. other bro found him on the floor.. called ambulance then turned out to have Covid.. so yes - this bro does NOT care about Dad.. Dad been in hospital 1 mth and only visited him yesterday!
Like i said, a lot more to this - this brother is a nightmare.. has made my other brother's life a living hell.. he has also let the farm go to pot!
I know Dad wants to be at home but the house is not set up for him. A lot of denial on Dads part - being telling him to prep for old age for a long time now and didn't wanna hear it.
Fair deal is sorted for Dad.. the plan is that he goes to a nursing home and my other bro will work on getting the house more suitable for Dad so he could go home in time to come.
Dad is 100% mentally but for some reason he cannot see thru this crazy brother. Anyway the reason I posted here was to ask who we can get advice from with regards to coercive control?? Not wether or not my Dad can go home - the medical professionals have said that Dad needs assistance 24/7.. we live in the middle of no where... house is 2 story.. no toilet down stairs.. not a lot of money in the bank.. HSE will only give 1.5 hrs home help/day.
...Anyone would be better off out of a nursing home.
What you describe would suggest one of your brothers does not give a damn about your dad and is not a very nice or caring person.Dad is 100% mentally but for some reason he cannot see thru this crazy brother. Anyway the reason I posted here was to ask who we can get advice from with regards to coercive control??
no social worker in the hospital and the liaison officer was no help at all.. the hospital is a nightmare.. I have had to talk to the ADONs etc - long story.. this is all a never ending nightmare... anyway.. based on what we told the staff they agreed that home would not be viable for Dad right now so the discharge co ordinator has helped the civil bro to get fair deal sorted.. (visiting ban in place now again due to Covid outbreak).. Bro is working on applying for grant from HSE to get work done on the house and all that.. I guess someone will be out to assess whats needed etc..This is sound advice.
If your father is 83 and living at home, you should apply to the HSE for help under the Home Support Service. The HSE will perform a Care Needs Assessment to determine the support service needed. You should raise the concerns you have concerning your father when the assessment is beiing carried out.
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