Hi,
Not sure if this is the right forum but anyway... long story.. Dad 83.. brother 47.. looks like said Bro is coercively controlling my Dad.. Dad's mind is 100% but Dad is is a farmer and this brother is the only farmer in the house so they have a close relationship.. but Dad is v unwell.. long story.. but basically he needs assistance round the clock - he is in a bit of denial about this.. nursing home is the only solution (for now, due to a whole load of reasons).. but this brother is trying to talk Dad out of this as he knows it will use money Dad has saved to Will to us.. (there is sooo much more to this story).. but my query is, does anyone know where I can get advice on this?
This Brother is dangerous - the only reason my Dad is unwell is cos he got Covid from this Brother (turns out he had covid and would not get tested even though Dad asked him to - Mum has already passed away as a result of this - if Dad goes home it will only be a matter of time before something else bad happens to him)..
I live 5 hrs away and have my own family commitments so i can't move back to the family home but I am doing all I can to help; on the phone constantly to the health professionals and up and down the motorway as often as I can... I can't even grieve my Mum's passing now as I am so focused on Dad.. dunno how I will be in the future.. taking it as a day at a time for the moment.. any advice?
This is a never ending nightmare.. my folks would have been 50 yrs married 8 days before Mum died.. and they were like 2 peas in a pod.. thing is, Dad is old school and doesn't like the idea of a nursing home.. but he 100% needs to go to 1.. he has a progressive terminal condition and covid has played havoc with is body but mind still 100% and he is a v sharp guy.. point is, this Bro does not have Dad's interests at heart.. but he is telling Dad what he wants to hear - for his own benefits.. (Dad wants to go home - crazy but his denial is epic) - it is all about money for this Brother.. the rest of us don't want a penny from Dad - we just want him to be ok.. like I said, this is a nightmare.. so any information on how we might get advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
TIA
Not sure if this is the right forum but anyway... long story.. Dad 83.. brother 47.. looks like said Bro is coercively controlling my Dad.. Dad's mind is 100% but Dad is is a farmer and this brother is the only farmer in the house so they have a close relationship.. but Dad is v unwell.. long story.. but basically he needs assistance round the clock - he is in a bit of denial about this.. nursing home is the only solution (for now, due to a whole load of reasons).. but this brother is trying to talk Dad out of this as he knows it will use money Dad has saved to Will to us.. (there is sooo much more to this story).. but my query is, does anyone know where I can get advice on this?
This Brother is dangerous - the only reason my Dad is unwell is cos he got Covid from this Brother (turns out he had covid and would not get tested even though Dad asked him to - Mum has already passed away as a result of this - if Dad goes home it will only be a matter of time before something else bad happens to him)..
I live 5 hrs away and have my own family commitments so i can't move back to the family home but I am doing all I can to help; on the phone constantly to the health professionals and up and down the motorway as often as I can... I can't even grieve my Mum's passing now as I am so focused on Dad.. dunno how I will be in the future.. taking it as a day at a time for the moment.. any advice?
This is a never ending nightmare.. my folks would have been 50 yrs married 8 days before Mum died.. and they were like 2 peas in a pod.. thing is, Dad is old school and doesn't like the idea of a nursing home.. but he 100% needs to go to 1.. he has a progressive terminal condition and covid has played havoc with is body but mind still 100% and he is a v sharp guy.. point is, this Bro does not have Dad's interests at heart.. but he is telling Dad what he wants to hear - for his own benefits.. (Dad wants to go home - crazy but his denial is epic) - it is all about money for this Brother.. the rest of us don't want a penny from Dad - we just want him to be ok.. like I said, this is a nightmare.. so any information on how we might get advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
TIA