What a bizarre question to ask! Short of sending out a survey to all of your guests asking them to indicate how much they intend to give you, I don't think you'll be able to budget based on cash gifts. After all, you might have richer/poorer/more generous/stingier friends/family than others
We are looking at our budget for wedding next April.
I'm trying to estimate the amount of cash gifts we will receive. We will not be asking for cash but as we will be in our house for a year at the time of the wedding, and the hints we intend dropping to family, we are hoping for cash instead of presents in a lot of cases.
We will have approx 220 for the full wedding and maybe 20 - 30 more at the 'afters'.
Could anyone who has gotten married recently let me know approx how much is average to receive?
I despise the idea (which seems to tbe gaining popularity) that the number invited to the wedding is irrelevant because it will pay for itself.
This in itself is a perfect reason to give a gift which will still exist after a week when the money is spent on the hotel bill.
I despise the idea (which seems to tbe gaining popularity) that the number invited to the wedding is irrelevant because it will pay for itself.
This in itself is a perfect reason to give a gift which will still exist after a week when the money is spent on the hotel bill.
The very idea of thinking about it upsets you? No one is making a profit or generating cash. For me buying an engagement ring was the point where I decided that you can't be shy about this kind of thing. If I thought people were going to bombard me with towels and toasters I'd be cutting my guest list in half to avoid getting too far into debt. Believe me, cutting the guest list in half would not be something i could live easy with but neither would the debt repayments.I have to agree I hate the idea of this topic being discussed in forums. I know the forum is open to any discussion but the thought of someone trying to gage how much cash they will generate (for whatever reason) by 'marrying their loved one' is mind boggling. It's not only weddings mind you, its how much you give the teacher at xmas for teaching your child or how much you put in birthday cards. It creates pressure on people (having to keep up with the jones') and it's this 'milarkey' that has the country full of debt.
Back to topic though - if your budgeting for your wedding, sit down and set out exactly who you want to invite, look at the costs and decide if you can afford it. Then any cash gifts you may receive will be a bonus.
I see your point of view. If you invite someone you should not expect a wad of cash from them. My point is that most people will want to give a gift and it is only sensible that a lot of them will give cash for two reasonsDerKaiser. I'm not saying you need to be shy about your wedding. I'm pointing out that the idea of having people around you on the most important day of your lives becomes shadowed by the fact that you see your guests as 'paying customers'.
I know some people prefer to give money instead of a present as the couple are now often enough set up in their home and have everything but to budget your wedding based on an average amount guests are going to give you IMO is totally wrong. Your saying to your guests, come share with me the best day of my life, but pay for the priviledge. That's what I don't like.
We are looking at our budget for wedding next April.
I'm trying to estimate the amount of cash gifts we will receive. We will not be asking for cash but as we will be in our house for a year at the time of the wedding, and the hints we intend dropping to family, we are hoping for cash instead of presents in a lot of cases.
We will have approx 220 for the full wedding and maybe 20 - 30 more at the 'afters'.
Could anyone who has gotten married recently let me know approx how much is average to receive?
Just wondering why you would have a wedding for 220 people when you don't have the money for it? - could you not do something that you do have the money for? - You are relying on money from friends who in some cases probably not be able to afford to give the money but will do so anyway as it's the 'done thing'. If cash is king wait until you have some to get married with - that's what I'm doing!
I can say with absolute certainty that I will only have people I want to be there attending and will not think any more or any less of anyone depending on presents received. (And of course I will repay slowly as I attend other weddings).
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