Hi im new to all this came across this website decided to post here so here it gos, im being bullyed by my supervisor in work picking on me over number topics that other people on the floor notting was ever mentioned to them, i contacted the union forwarded emails and union said def is a case of bullying and i should nip it in bud before it gets out of hand. While i do agree im afraid of loosing my job as i have 2 kids and need income to keep a roof over there head do i keep going and ignore it and hopefully it will pass or bite the bullet and bring it futher? thanks in advance to any replys
Suzy,
Please could I first ask you to spell check your posts and word your sentences to make it easier for people to read your posts. Item 4 on the Posting Guidelines refers. Your post is not as hard to read as textspeak, but it is difficult to read. perhaps it should read something like this.
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Hi, I'm new to all this.
I came across this website and decided to post here so here it goes.
I'm being bullied by my supervisor in work who is picking on me over a number of topics.
Nothing was mentioned to other people on the shop floor about the same topics.
I contacted the union and forwarded emails my supervisor had sent to me.
The union said that it is definitely a case of bullying and I should nip it in bud before it gets out of hand.
While I do agree with the Union's advice I'm afraid of losing my job as I have 2 kids and need the income to keep a roof over our heads.
Do I keep going and ignore it in the hope that it will pass or should I bite the bullet and bring it further? Thanks in advance for any replies.
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Look at your original post and compare it with the wording above. I hope the revised wording seems clearer to you as it does to me.
This is not a put-down or a wind up. Getting your thoughts in order and communicating clearly will help you in all your dealings with your supervisor, your boss and your union.
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Before saying anything to your supervisor make a list the aspects of his behaviour that you find offensive or intimidating. These is your list of grievances. Talk about the situation with a friend outlining your concerns. Not a macho friend who'll offer to have a go on your behalf, but someone who will listen to you, give you a fair hearing and tell you if you are over-reacting.
If you friend thinks you are are being reasonable, then consider taking things to the next level and confronting your supervisor about what you think is his intimidating behavior.
Before your first meeting with your supervisor think very carefully about the location. I would advise against meeting him alone if you already feel intimidated by him.
Speaking to him informally at work in front of witnesses may be the best place to talk in case the encounter goes pear-shaped for you or he reacts badly. Have a work colleague you trust standing by to intervene.
If your supervisor wants to move matters to a formal face-to-face meeting, I'd strongly suggest you do not agree to meet with him alone then either. You could ask to meet with another supervisor since your supervisor cannot be the judge in his own case. Alternatively ask to meet with him with a witness/observer present.
Use your list of grievances as a basis for the meeting. Make sure the witness/observer takes notes of what was said. Your supervisor will certainly take notes but you may be too rattled to take notes. Consider coming back to this forum and letting us know how you get on.
I hope this is of some use to you.
ONQ.