Bear in mind that if it's come to the stage of a barring order then, even if the individual magically kicks the drink and stays off it at the first attempt (very unusual in my experience), significant damage has very likely already been done to the family, relationships, individuals, children (if applicable - and this includes adult children), friends, and even stuff like finances, and the likelyhood is that they may not recover such that they go back to normal (if there ever was normality). I don't know what "usually" happens but I'm speaking from my own first and second hand experience. We certainly didn't get back together and the repercussions of alcoholism still reverberate many years later. If I was to offer any advice to anybody dealing with a partner with an addiction it would be, cut your losses as soon as possible and go your separate ways. Especially if there are kids involved - with the capable/responsible partner taking care of them. The odds are severely stacked against sticking it out being the best course of action.