Hi all. Just looking for comments/advice on elderly relative 76 who is in below average health, living alone in own house and refuses to consider going into residential care.
just some points....
2010 hospitalised for 8 months
2011 so far hospitalised for 3 months at different times, last month fell down stairs
health issues - spinal osteoporosis, emphysema, heart and renal issues, colostomy, long term depression. public nurse visits every single day and evening to give an injection.
mobility- never leaves house except for hospital, not on oxygen but breathing bad meaning post office/shops only 300m away are out of the question, can just about get out of bed and plonk in armchair all day, never goes out back or front gardens.
although living in house, doesnt clean, or cook proper meals. had meals on wheels, stopped it herself as she got fed up with it. refuses home help.
it is only because of her sons and daughters that she is able to live at home. instead of visiting your mother for tea and a chat, its a case of cleaning the kitchen, bathroom, hoovering etc 2 or 3 times a week. gardening for 2 hrs at a time during summer too.
frequently doesnt hang up telephone/cordless properly after a call, meaning family dont know is she ok or not, although she now has panic alarm around neck.
now the woman is not my mother so I can be a bit detached from the emotional point of view.
I and anyone that knows her can see that the woman's quality of life is very bad, can she be put into residential care without her consent? She can't manage on her own.
If she refuses home help, should the family just quit the hoovering/cleaning?
As she doesnt use the gardens, should the family quit maintaining them?
all the family are living at least 10 miles away from her in Dublin and will meet with hospital social worker to discuss case.
just some points....
2010 hospitalised for 8 months
2011 so far hospitalised for 3 months at different times, last month fell down stairs
health issues - spinal osteoporosis, emphysema, heart and renal issues, colostomy, long term depression. public nurse visits every single day and evening to give an injection.
mobility- never leaves house except for hospital, not on oxygen but breathing bad meaning post office/shops only 300m away are out of the question, can just about get out of bed and plonk in armchair all day, never goes out back or front gardens.
although living in house, doesnt clean, or cook proper meals. had meals on wheels, stopped it herself as she got fed up with it. refuses home help.
it is only because of her sons and daughters that she is able to live at home. instead of visiting your mother for tea and a chat, its a case of cleaning the kitchen, bathroom, hoovering etc 2 or 3 times a week. gardening for 2 hrs at a time during summer too.
frequently doesnt hang up telephone/cordless properly after a call, meaning family dont know is she ok or not, although she now has panic alarm around neck.
now the woman is not my mother so I can be a bit detached from the emotional point of view.
I and anyone that knows her can see that the woman's quality of life is very bad, can she be put into residential care without her consent? She can't manage on her own.
If she refuses home help, should the family just quit the hoovering/cleaning?
As she doesnt use the gardens, should the family quit maintaining them?
all the family are living at least 10 miles away from her in Dublin and will meet with hospital social worker to discuss case.