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panathon
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ok, my cousin is adopted and now wants just to know where he came from and all of that and loves his adoptive parents and they support him and his search completely. He has been in touch with the relevant agency involved and they contacted his birth mother and she doesn't want to meet him as she has other children now etc. The issue is:
She never told his birth father (or family ie her parents) about him though she knows who the birth father is nut didn't put his name on the original birth cert and my cousin wants to know who his people are even if she will never meet him, he feels it's very unfair as I do for him not to let his father know, maybe it will be bad but it could be good also - and also unbeknowst to the birth mother, he knows her full unmarried name due to bit if slackness in the handing over process.
If anyone on this is adopted - he and I know the normal way to proceed but he has extra info but I know you can't force people but he just wants his dads name - what to do???
She never told his birth father (or family ie her parents) about him though she knows who the birth father is nut didn't put his name on the original birth cert and my cousin wants to know who his people are even if she will never meet him, he feels it's very unfair as I do for him not to let his father know, maybe it will be bad but it could be good also - and also unbeknowst to the birth mother, he knows her full unmarried name due to bit if slackness in the handing over process.
If anyone on this is adopted - he and I know the normal way to proceed but he has extra info but I know you can't force people but he just wants his dads name - what to do???