Hi everyone,
Really need your advice as I am a low as I can get at the moment, have already cried my eyes out this morning.
I am a senior in my office and I asked the cleaner (in her 50's)"would she have something that could take a stain off a chair in the reception area as it is not very nice for a stranger to come in and see it" She said "I can't do it now as I am going home" I said " Sure, no problem", I have thought that she was being off with me, so I lifted that chair and replaced it with a clean one.
The next morning my boss takes me and tells me she went to her manager to get assured that I could not tell her what to do, my boss said I'm sure she didn't, she then proceeded to accuse me of bullying her. Now I cannot rememberwhen the was the last time I spoke to this woman but thankGod I has a witness to our conversation.She constantly moans to everyone here and everyone is fed up with her so that is why my boss is being so filpant about it. But once someone accuses you of bullying your stuck with it.
Now my problem is that last year I hired a 'psyco' (In her 30's)(Had all of us completely fooled for the first 6 mths, could not do enough for you which is why I was so shocked at what happened, I am her supervisor and it was for my old job that whe was hired to do - I got promoted) she who happens to live quite close to me, she has alot of personal issues (going out with a guy who beats her and hiding the relationship from her parents) and on a daily/hourly basis we were listening to them . One morning she verbally abused me in front of my colleagues regarding a personal issue that had nothing to do with me except for the fact that her neighbour who she had an issue with was my cousin whom I never see from one year to the next. I was that shocked the only thing I said to her was I don't want to hear anymore. After that I remained completely professional.
But apparently this was not working for her, so my boss asked me to come , said he would be disappointed in me if I didn't talk to her, she apologised but after I sat in the office and said that work should be a happy place and blah blah blah, and how I didn't realise that she was unhappy, had to psyche myself for that meeting so as I would stay completely calm) She went away completely happy but I have not been. I have gained a stone in weight since this has happened and its all down to this.
I have since been told by a new employee that she has told them that she was bullyed by me. I have told my boss but he says there is nothing we can do about this. I had to stop my parents from going to each of their houses last night (Now my parents are not confrontational but they cannot bear me being treated like this. I have worked very hard to get to where I am and for two to destroy my reputation is not acceptable.
I have told my boss this morning, that it seems to be o.k. that my name is blackened as long as everyone else is happy! I think enough is enough now, My boss has told me that he isbringing HR over this evening, thankfully I have a witness but that really doesent matter cause I had 3 witnesses to the incident that happened last year but no wrists were slapped.
Feel really hard done and everytime I think about it I start to cry. Now one of them is sitting opposite me behind a screen but 'I am a professional' I'll manage, no real odds about me. My boss has said unfortunately I am the senior person in the office would be required to let this go.... We work in a factory so the rumours have been rift and I am a local so all my family would have heard also. Think that is what is killing my family so much. I have worked with the company for 13 years.
I think the company should be made take some sort of action, as I am completely and uterly stressed out trying to remain professional and rising above things. I think they are expected too much from me.
Would love to get some advice from you as i feel I am off no worth.... I was promoted two years ago and i think this rubbed a few people up the wrong way..... Sorry about the long post but I am at the point of no return, have told my manager this morning that if you wanted rid of me there are kinder ways to do it,, think now he finally has seen the effect it has had on me.
Really need your advice as I am a low as I can get at the moment, have already cried my eyes out this morning.
I am a senior in my office and I asked the cleaner (in her 50's)"would she have something that could take a stain off a chair in the reception area as it is not very nice for a stranger to come in and see it" She said "I can't do it now as I am going home" I said " Sure, no problem", I have thought that she was being off with me, so I lifted that chair and replaced it with a clean one.
The next morning my boss takes me and tells me she went to her manager to get assured that I could not tell her what to do, my boss said I'm sure she didn't, she then proceeded to accuse me of bullying her. Now I cannot rememberwhen the was the last time I spoke to this woman but thankGod I has a witness to our conversation.She constantly moans to everyone here and everyone is fed up with her so that is why my boss is being so filpant about it. But once someone accuses you of bullying your stuck with it.
Now my problem is that last year I hired a 'psyco' (In her 30's)(Had all of us completely fooled for the first 6 mths, could not do enough for you which is why I was so shocked at what happened, I am her supervisor and it was for my old job that whe was hired to do - I got promoted) she who happens to live quite close to me, she has alot of personal issues (going out with a guy who beats her and hiding the relationship from her parents) and on a daily/hourly basis we were listening to them . One morning she verbally abused me in front of my colleagues regarding a personal issue that had nothing to do with me except for the fact that her neighbour who she had an issue with was my cousin whom I never see from one year to the next. I was that shocked the only thing I said to her was I don't want to hear anymore. After that I remained completely professional.
But apparently this was not working for her, so my boss asked me to come , said he would be disappointed in me if I didn't talk to her, she apologised but after I sat in the office and said that work should be a happy place and blah blah blah, and how I didn't realise that she was unhappy, had to psyche myself for that meeting so as I would stay completely calm) She went away completely happy but I have not been. I have gained a stone in weight since this has happened and its all down to this.
I have since been told by a new employee that she has told them that she was bullyed by me. I have told my boss but he says there is nothing we can do about this. I had to stop my parents from going to each of their houses last night (Now my parents are not confrontational but they cannot bear me being treated like this. I have worked very hard to get to where I am and for two to destroy my reputation is not acceptable.
I have told my boss this morning, that it seems to be o.k. that my name is blackened as long as everyone else is happy! I think enough is enough now, My boss has told me that he isbringing HR over this evening, thankfully I have a witness but that really doesent matter cause I had 3 witnesses to the incident that happened last year but no wrists were slapped.
Feel really hard done and everytime I think about it I start to cry. Now one of them is sitting opposite me behind a screen but 'I am a professional' I'll manage, no real odds about me. My boss has said unfortunately I am the senior person in the office would be required to let this go.... We work in a factory so the rumours have been rift and I am a local so all my family would have heard also. Think that is what is killing my family so much. I have worked with the company for 13 years.
I think the company should be made take some sort of action, as I am completely and uterly stressed out trying to remain professional and rising above things. I think they are expected too much from me.
Would love to get some advice from you as i feel I am off no worth.... I was promoted two years ago and i think this rubbed a few people up the wrong way..... Sorry about the long post but I am at the point of no return, have told my manager this morning that if you wanted rid of me there are kinder ways to do it,, think now he finally has seen the effect it has had on me.