Not protestant but our family have a v strong work ethic. You always have to be seen to 'be DOING something'. Mother still works full time, father a farmer. You could never sit inside and watch TV of a fine summer evening. You would have to be out doing something, or weeding if there was nothing else to do. I particularly resented this when I was in my early 20s and working. I felt that when I was finished work, and when the necessary household tasks were done, my time should be my own. I used to love when it was raining & the winter evenings cos I would get a rest and we could just do inside tasks/watch TV
I don't want the appearance of working part time cos my father always has a job for everyone. I could have to help with some of the farm work, or go to town to collect something. Our house is only over the road from theirs so they can see the car. Also they can be quite scornful of someone with only one child choosing to work less hours, and think that I am wasteful and lazy. If there is a euro to be made, one should be seen to go after it.
I think it better to take an odd day/half day here and there, and not to have a certain day off every week. If they think you are doing nothing or heavens above enjoying yourself, they will find something for you to do.
I wouldn't mind helping out if I had no job, but I would hate to give up a day of work, be earning less money and not even having the free time to show for it.
I hope to look for the 2 wks summer parental leave (when creche is closed). This will mean that I can keep most of the 20 days hols for if LO is unwell, or to take a stray day off here and there.
I find it OK to work up flexi time, but I have to be up and out early in morning. Am at work at 8.30, take half hour for lunch, leaving work before 5. I feel I have to be v disciplined regarding only taking half hour for lunch. I don't have the opportunity to work up loads of flexi in one day as I have to be out of work before 5.