This is something we're hearing so much about I'm reluctant to dismiss it entirely as 'boys will be boys'. The ante is upped considerably by using the term 'Rape Culture'.
Given another thread was taken down there should be no mention in this conversation of a certain recent case.
So, though I am a man I don't claim to be plugged into the zeitgeist of men - bit auld for that now... Is this a rebranding of how men have always been or has the situation gotten appreciably worse to justify these new tags? My experience was of being fairly oblivious to girls as a boy, as a teenager it was all lust & crude jokes (being in an all boys school - not rugby, but not sure that is significant - I barely knew any girls by the time I did the leaving). Into college and I acclimatised to normal society, women were fellow students, future colleagues etc etc. That is probably a typical enough scenario.
So what's the story nowadays?, is it eternal teenagers?, has the ubiquity of porn raised expectations and lessened respect? I would have thought the younger generations were more tolerant (homophobia I gather is much less, even at the 'banter' level), probably more sexually liberal (in all senses - not sure that is entirely a good thing...). So with 2 young fellas of my own growing up what should I be looking out for.
And is 'rape culture' a meaningful term or is it just an escalation strategy? Never in my life have I heard (& I've been in a fair few 'locker rooms') anything within an asses roar of sexual conduct (of whatever level) without consent. Sure there could be more respect, but that's still a huge jump to 'rape culture'.
Given another thread was taken down there should be no mention in this conversation of a certain recent case.
So, though I am a man I don't claim to be plugged into the zeitgeist of men - bit auld for that now... Is this a rebranding of how men have always been or has the situation gotten appreciably worse to justify these new tags? My experience was of being fairly oblivious to girls as a boy, as a teenager it was all lust & crude jokes (being in an all boys school - not rugby, but not sure that is significant - I barely knew any girls by the time I did the leaving). Into college and I acclimatised to normal society, women were fellow students, future colleagues etc etc. That is probably a typical enough scenario.
So what's the story nowadays?, is it eternal teenagers?, has the ubiquity of porn raised expectations and lessened respect? I would have thought the younger generations were more tolerant (homophobia I gather is much less, even at the 'banter' level), probably more sexually liberal (in all senses - not sure that is entirely a good thing...). So with 2 young fellas of my own growing up what should I be looking out for.
And is 'rape culture' a meaningful term or is it just an escalation strategy? Never in my life have I heard (& I've been in a fair few 'locker rooms') anything within an asses roar of sexual conduct (of whatever level) without consent. Sure there could be more respect, but that's still a huge jump to 'rape culture'.