I'm looking for a bit of advice on a current situation involving child maintenance for my partner's child.
He is currently paying maintenance of €300/month (not by court order) to the mother of his child and has been paying this for a few of years.
My partner has regular contact, the child is as much a part of our lives as the mothers and we see the child regularly 3-4 nights/days a week including the weekends, and arrangements are relatively amicable.
The mother is in a steady relationship and has house/mortgage/part-time job/other child with her partner.
We a starting to feel like this might be an excessive amount to pay monthly considering the situation. Also, as far as we know no money has been put aside for the child's future by the mother i.e for college funds etc. This is something we would like to set up ourselves but feel that combined with maintenance payments it is too much.Also the mother has made comments about how the money is to be used to pay car tax, deposits on furniture, etc in the past: which I think is a unacceptable considering that maintenance is for the child and not her (letting off steam here).
We have a mortgage, bills to be paid and are engaged to be married. Also my partner has just started a new job and we think now is the time to review the situation. We have not sought any legal advice as of yet, but we are aware at present that my partner seems to have no rights to his child.
Any feedback is greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
He is currently paying maintenance of €300/month (not by court order) to the mother of his child and has been paying this for a few of years.
My partner has regular contact, the child is as much a part of our lives as the mothers and we see the child regularly 3-4 nights/days a week including the weekends, and arrangements are relatively amicable.
The mother is in a steady relationship and has house/mortgage/part-time job/other child with her partner.
We a starting to feel like this might be an excessive amount to pay monthly considering the situation. Also, as far as we know no money has been put aside for the child's future by the mother i.e for college funds etc. This is something we would like to set up ourselves but feel that combined with maintenance payments it is too much.Also the mother has made comments about how the money is to be used to pay car tax, deposits on furniture, etc in the past: which I think is a unacceptable considering that maintenance is for the child and not her (letting off steam here).
We have a mortgage, bills to be paid and are engaged to be married. Also my partner has just started a new job and we think now is the time to review the situation. We have not sought any legal advice as of yet, but we are aware at present that my partner seems to have no rights to his child.
Any feedback is greatly appreciated.
Thanks.