truthseeker
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Just wondering about peoples thoughts on this.
Neither myself or OH find ourselves really yearning to have children, we like children but we just dont feel a 'need' to reproduce. We both enjoy our lives and the freedoms that we have. When we talk about children we always seem to come around to thinking that it sounds (and looks) like very hard work and that we like life the way it is.
Both of us know people with children who really wanted to have children and seem to love being parents, we also both know people who had children and (one or both) seem to not like being a parent (just as an example one father we know gets up on a saturday morning to drop his child off at grannies so he can come home and lie on the couch playing playstation all day by himself while his missus is in work).
I wonder how many people really think it through and how many just have children because thats what people tend to do when they get married?
I also dont get the broody feeling when I see a baby, I have other friends who dont get it either, but one friend who never got it did have a child and she loves being a mother - so not sure if the broody feeling is a reliable indicator.
Any thoughts? For people who have children - why did you have them?
For people who dont - why would you have them?
Neither myself or OH find ourselves really yearning to have children, we like children but we just dont feel a 'need' to reproduce. We both enjoy our lives and the freedoms that we have. When we talk about children we always seem to come around to thinking that it sounds (and looks) like very hard work and that we like life the way it is.
Both of us know people with children who really wanted to have children and seem to love being parents, we also both know people who had children and (one or both) seem to not like being a parent (just as an example one father we know gets up on a saturday morning to drop his child off at grannies so he can come home and lie on the couch playing playstation all day by himself while his missus is in work).
I wonder how many people really think it through and how many just have children because thats what people tend to do when they get married?
I also dont get the broody feeling when I see a baby, I have other friends who dont get it either, but one friend who never got it did have a child and she loves being a mother - so not sure if the broody feeling is a reliable indicator.
Any thoughts? For people who have children - why did you have them?
For people who dont - why would you have them?