Flax
I have just read the last two pages of this and I fully support the approach you are taking.
Tough love is often necessary. But the person providing it will usually just get abused for it. It's much easier to hug someone and tell them that the banks are really terrible. The "victim" gets a warm fuzzy feeling, but it doesn't help them solve their problem.
Well done!
Brendan
Brendan, for want of better words, I find your post somewhat ridiculous.
I'm not looking for hugs or warm fuzzy feelings, nor have I ever claimed to be a "victim"
I did not come back to this thread to be felt sorry for or to look for sympathy and I know that "hugs & warm fuzzy feelings" won't make things better...jeez, why not just stick a Dunce Hat on me and stick me in the corner!!!!!!
Flax may have his/her points, I just don't see what good they are at this stage. There is no point in "advising" what I
should have done back then. It's too late for that now. I don't need my mistakes pointed out to me - reality has done that.
I cannot stress that enough!!
I didn't get defensive because he was 'right or wrong' in what he said, it was the way he worded his post, and he only came short of labelling me as Stupid.
Sure, he can judge me if he likes based on the information I posted, but frankly at this stage I don't give a damn.
I've more important things to think about and worry about.
For the rest of you that have offered your words of support and good luck, as much as i
know it won't change my situation, it still means something to me....Thanks !