Incident at work, views please

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Well maybe she's not managing very well and taking it out on her staff or perhaps there's a bit of authority gone to her head.
 
no not really - OP asked for opinions and received them - some agreed with her some didnt, thats why the world is a fun place, because we are all different.
 
well my tuppance worth is I think you should move on, your boss is your boss is your boss. Its a one off run in reading from your post, she was wrong, you were wrong, put it behind you. Your could work for someone a lot worse.
 
pc7 there is mediation so putting it behind her isn't really an option anymore.

I realise that it's meant to be used to avoid a more formal bullying /haressment case being heard but to me its formal

I'd like to hear the outcome but the thread my soon.
 
ClubMan said:
Is this thread going anywhere at this stage? :confused:
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No, these threads always produce pages of responses where posters end up bickering over trivial aspects of what happened during an incident which nobody except the OP witnessed. The real issue gets forgotten and when the OP gets answers or suggestions he/she doesn't want, they're not happy. Who knows what happened? Who knows if we're getting the full story? Is "barging in" worse than "refusing to leave"? Who knows. The OP has heard plenty of varied opinions...the next move is hers.
 
I'm not a manager but I do have my own office and if someone came in and asked to speak to me while I was in the middle of something and I said I was busy and would have to see (when I was free to meet with them) i would be very annoyed if said person kept insisting on an exact time and then proceeded to say it anyway especially when it was a complaint over being reprimanded for time wasting. If I was a manager then I would expect that I can reprimand 2 memners of staff for chatting all mornign without one of them then making an issue of it.
Would OP have preferred to be reprimanded in private with a verbal warning? The other 2 non involved staff members were on calls as per OP. So OP was not reprimanded in front of "everyone" or even publicly. The only people involved were the only people in the vicinity that were listening.
As a matter of interest, what did the new girl say or do, I wonder? I am sure she thought "whoops, better get back to my desk and not get caught up in personal coversation again". Whereas OP has been around longer and would appear to have less respect for her manager. If this was something that happened day in and out then I would be all for her standing up for herself. However, OP admits they were chatting on and off all morning and can't accept that that is not the most constructive thing she could have been doing and that the manager wouldn't be a manager if she ignored that.
A managers job is to manage the offices resources and ensure they are utilised in the most productive manner. Telling half your staff to stop chatting about personal matters is doing their job.
Personally I think it is a sign of the times where someones boss ticks them off for standing around chatting and it results in a big drama with accusations of bullying and meetings to try and "resolve" the issue. WHAT ISSUE? Do your job and stop chatting and this won't happen. I'm only in the work force 8 years and I think that the OP is talking the modern working environments and all it's regulations too far as many people do. What happened to the boss being the one in charge? Isn't that what they are paid for? I understand that the position of power can be abused to the detriment of the workers but in this case it sounds like the OP has been mollycoddled in her employment where her boss cannot remprimand her without being dragged up in front of a mediation session for it. Madness!
 
Both the OP and the manager did something wrong, but the OP is being quite pathetic to suggest this is some kind of bullying incident.

Moesha said:
I didnt mention [bullying] deliberately because thats the way I feel and I wanted you folk to form a view of the situation without the "b" word even being mentioned.
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Great we've heard all the opinions over and over now let's wait to see what Moesha comes back to us with. Let's not keep ranting on or the thread will be closed.
 
Yes... we are all unique ... just like everybody else.

Anyways, my guess is that moesha will come back with some more 'drama' (for which I think the whole thing is blown out of proportion anyway).
 
Moesha, do you have an intermediate supervisor with whom you can talk to and let him or her act as peace maker? If you can't patch things up put in for a transfer but no matter what you do be very careful about using the word bullying as it may become more of an issue than it's worth.
PS over the years I've seen grown women (no man yet) cry over just such a reprimand so you did very well in confronting the manager and not starting a b* fest in the canteen.
 
Holy moly, I really did not expect this thread to go this far.

Havent got alot of time at the mo but here are a few points I want to add

I did not barge into the Managers office, I knocked on an open door.

There are no other immediate supervisor, she is it!!!!!

I do think Im being bullied and I have gone further about it, union, personnel, my GP. This has caused me so much stress. Now im waiting for the comments from some posters, who will have a good oul giggle about this. Which some people already have. Some people love a chance to have a swipe at the Civil Servants, personally I think their jealous. What other job owuld let you have the summer off to be with your kids, flexi time, come in early leave early the perks are endless.


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Gotta go, this should keep the thread going for about another 5 pages now!!!!!

BAck later
 
I still don't understand how she treated you like crap.

Could you please explain what the bullying is? Currently I feel you're completely overreacting. Yes she's clearly a bit of a tit but that's not bullying.

BTW I'm not jealous of Civil Servants (quite the opposite actually.) Working in such a non-progressive environment would depress the hell out of me.
 
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