I’m after a bit of advice please.
I’ve split from long term partner, we were not married. We have a young child together. He was breadwinner while I raised the children since the youngest came along. (I have young teenager also)
I have a solicitor dealing with the legal side of things and initially child maintenance and access were something we were both in agreement with. However things have turned more difficult.... Ex left for another woman. That didn’t work out for him and recently expressed his wishes to try again with our relationship. I have no interest in that for valid reasons.
He comes over to see our child and insists on staying the night/s (it’s his house). I’ve been going out in the afternoons to alleviate the awkwardness of the situation. I’ve refused to say where I’m going but I’m reachable by phone. I feel that it was a controlling relationship so it is important to me not to be answering to him now. This has resulted in him cutting child maintenance and being wishy washy about when he is seeing our child. It is on his terms instead of it being a mutual agreement. I’d like more structure in place. The drop in maintenance is also making an already tight budget even tougher.
My solicitor is dealing with cohabitation redress. Should I deal with child maintenance and access on my own through court (I’ve been told it’s pretty straightforward) or do it all together with my solicitor? I’m not sure how often I should be emailing solicitor with questions like this etc. I’m receiving legal aid and I don’t want to bother him too much. Its lengthy and not sure if an increase in child maintenance would be backdated hence my worry at leaving it to tick over week by week.
Also the issue of him staying over is concerning me with regards to my One Parent Family Payment. Could this cause problems? If they were to do an inspection it looks like he does still live here as a lot of his things are still here.
Any input or advice much appreciated.
I’ve split from long term partner, we were not married. We have a young child together. He was breadwinner while I raised the children since the youngest came along. (I have young teenager also)
I have a solicitor dealing with the legal side of things and initially child maintenance and access were something we were both in agreement with. However things have turned more difficult.... Ex left for another woman. That didn’t work out for him and recently expressed his wishes to try again with our relationship. I have no interest in that for valid reasons.
He comes over to see our child and insists on staying the night/s (it’s his house). I’ve been going out in the afternoons to alleviate the awkwardness of the situation. I’ve refused to say where I’m going but I’m reachable by phone. I feel that it was a controlling relationship so it is important to me not to be answering to him now. This has resulted in him cutting child maintenance and being wishy washy about when he is seeing our child. It is on his terms instead of it being a mutual agreement. I’d like more structure in place. The drop in maintenance is also making an already tight budget even tougher.
My solicitor is dealing with cohabitation redress. Should I deal with child maintenance and access on my own through court (I’ve been told it’s pretty straightforward) or do it all together with my solicitor? I’m not sure how often I should be emailing solicitor with questions like this etc. I’m receiving legal aid and I don’t want to bother him too much. Its lengthy and not sure if an increase in child maintenance would be backdated hence my worry at leaving it to tick over week by week.
Also the issue of him staying over is concerning me with regards to my One Parent Family Payment. Could this cause problems? If they were to do an inspection it looks like he does still live here as a lot of his things are still here.
Any input or advice much appreciated.