Wedding gift - not attending wedding

[dillsquatt]

I have been invited to a work colleagues wedding - shocked to receive invite, no idea why I was invited. I am invited on my own, a few other colleagues invited but very few from my work. I cannot go to wedding as on holiday but just wondered what is acceptable in monetary terms as a gift if not attending wedding.

thanks

 

[llgon]

Would you normally have a collection at work on such occasions for a group present? If you do I would stick with that and give the usual contribution.

 

[dillsquatt]

normally there wouldn't be a group present in department.

 

[JoeRoberts]

I dont think anything needed to be honest

 

[Marsha25]

I wouldn't feel obliged to give them anything. It's not as if you have a close relationship, by the sounds of it. Send a decline card and leave it at that. I can't imagine a couple would be grabby enough to expect a gift from anyone who doesn't go to their wedding.

 

[Sister Sara]

Have had the same experience before.

If you can find out something about their interests, then a gift/vouchur is good.

A good restaurant near their locality, that will reasonably cover the cost of a starter/main course for two and a maybe a bottle of wine.

If they play golf - a round of golf at a good golf course.

ditto, horseracing, LoI, GAA (season tickets, framed jerseys signed by players etc)

Tickets to an event, theatre, concert etc.

The gesture of a good gift, regardless of price, will outweigh any cash gift for years to come and may be cheaper than a flat cash amount.

 

[faketales]

Not really needed. If it was a close friend I’d probably get them a gift in the region of 50-100 euro.

 

[blanketyblank]

Id def give something - probably 80 to 100 euro. It was nice of them to invite you.

 

[beautfan]

Totally disagree that I should give €80 to €100 and think they were nice to ask. Seriously? My max under be €20.

Sounds like a money racket to me. I wonder did they take a chance or know the OP was on leave. Cha Ching!