truthseeker
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my wife and I rear our children not the local creche. we made a lot of sacrifices when we decided to have children. I have given up a lot in my career for our children. I have turned down opportunities to work abroad or sacrificed obvious promotion as I will not work huge hours over time because i want to see my children.
you make that choice when you decide to have children.
we have sacrificed many things because children come first.
I can totally understand why women may decide to return to the workforce when their child reaches school going age, its the women that have children and cant wait to abandon them at some creche door the minute their maternity leave finishes. the women who comment like bronte that they "dont want to spend the day with their children" i see this as repugnant and wonder why these women bothered having children at all.
as another poster commented what about the childs rights in all this.
I have turned down opportunities to work abroad or sacrificed obvious promotion as I will not work huge hours over time because i want to see my children.
What about the men who don't want to spend the day with their children? Is that repugnant as well?the women who comment like bronte that they "dont want to spend the day with their children" i see this as repugnant and wonder why these women bothered having children at all.
What about the men who don't want to spend the day with their children? Is that repugnant as well?
But that is my choice now. Talk of this feminist sisterhood is quite old to me, I shouldn't have to have a career to uphold the strides made by women before me. It is a totally individual choice. The same way that if I wanted to head back to my career as soon as my basic Maternity leave was up- that would also be my choice. I really don't get why we have to have a competition to see who's best at parenting.
Anyway, just another slant...
Who could argue with this? Not I.it is a totally individual choice. What is right for one person and their circumstances is not necessarily right for another. And in many cases it is not the stark choice of 'career vs children' but a mix of approaches by both parents, which changes over time.
Who could argue with this? Not I.
However, I think it's also hard to dispute that the best situation for a young child (up to maybe 30 months) is to be at home with it's mother.
However, I think it's also hard to dispute that the best situation for a young child (up to maybe 30 months) is to be at home with it's mother. That may not be PC, or gel with peoples 'careers', but it is what it is.
That child really landed on it feetOnly if the mother wants to be at home minding a baby. If she doesnt then its not going to create a happy and loving environment for anyone.
Tell yourself whatever you need. Do you realise the hours a trainee Solicitor will have to put in to succeed?Or father. Or grandparents. Or really any loving adult who provides continuity and affection. What they do not need is to be messed about - they need love and structure.
That child really landed on it feet.
Tell yourself whatever you need. Do you realise the hours a trainee Solicitor will have to put in to succeed?
What I dont want is to drink 12 pints, take risks with my sexual health and belch in public and think it is hilarious, Is this what our previous generations of woman fought I dont think so.
Hi Sherman
If this is one of the most Bizarre things you have read on aam what a sheltered life you must lead. Are you a stay at home mum lol. With regard to the comment I made I was merely stating that all the positive things I pointed out to do with equality still need to be worked at but the negative aspects of so called equality are plainly seen everyday of the week. Further your comment does this apply to working mothers unfortunately in many cases it does especially the binge drinking. I have friends who work and they drink loads at the weekend and say I am entilted I have been busy all week.
Further your comment does this apply to working mothers unfortunately in many cases it does especially the binge drinking. I have friends who work and they drink loads at the weekend and say I am entilted I have been busy all week.
Sorry, my mistake, I was mixing up your posts with Thirfty1's.I honestly don't give a monkey's about what a trainee solicitor needs or does not need to do. Unless you want to restrict the debate to parents who also are trainee solicitors.
I'm in full agreement with you here. (Your reply was admirably restrained given the intemperate tone of my post.)Everybody has choices, including the choice of how many hours to work, which of course affects their career options. I personally think that the long hours mentality is particularly damaging to family life.
I don't personally 'need' to tell myself anything; I, like most parents, do the best I can for my children within my means and within my long term plans.
Who needs a hug?Another one of your "I'm absolutely right and you're all wrong whether you like it or not" posts. Predictable at least. . .Men can care for children as adequately as women, the difference being that they don't generally want to, and nobody tells them they shouldn't have children.
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