thanks for replying to me but she know my financial situation and I have asked all questions regarding the WHY!!!!!!! we are waiting and she is saying it's the other party. Because they have not paid a deposit she won't release the contracts. Fair enought but she should be demanding some sort of deposit or closing date??
Ah - does that mean that the other party is not in possession of contracts signed by you? It's not clear, but it sounds to me as though she really
is protecting your interests: once the other party has contracts signed by you, they have you over a barrel, whether they've paid a deposit or not.
Yes, I think she probably should be setting ultimatums at this point - pay over deposit by X, close by Y, but this is a fairly drastic step. She may currently be taking a softly-softly approach to avoid scaring them off entirely, if they're faffing around.
On the other hand, you're in an untenable position. If you have buyers who won't buy, you should at least be able to market the house again (horrible prospect, no doubt, but you can't just stay in limbo). Ask her what your options are: can you give them a notice to complete, or should you be providing deadlines after which all deals are off and you put it back on the market. If you're giving ultimatums, you do need to be able to back it up. "Close by Y or I'll put the house back on the market" is more effective than "Close by Y or, I'll, um, wait until you close". Talk to your EA as well - you need a sense of how the market is in your area. If the sale falls through, they should presumably put it back on the market to secure their fee, too.
It does sound like the sale may be going south. I hope it isn't, and good luck.