Blackrock1
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Agree completely with this statement !Two parents working full time with a nest full of children can be difficult to manage and for many can become stressful and ultimately result in a deteriorated lifestyle for everyone.
Appreciate that we have a relatively high lifestyle spend and car cost, but my opinion is that there is no point working hard and earning a decent salary and then not getting some enjoyment out of it!
Your bonuses are ~30k and you again use the words lifestyle expenses here in terms of spending !Bonuses - ideally we would get around 50k back into our savings as a buffer and then bonuses will be used in part to pay down mortgages and in part for family holidays, life style expenditure
Firstly, kudos on the enviable position you've gotten yourself into.Appreciate that we have a relatively high lifestyle spend and car cost, but my opinion is that there is no point working hard and earning a decent salary and then not getting some enjoyment out of it!
I'd like to think the criticism is constructive!Finally, I think you should brace yourself for some critical comments re your lifestyle spending!
think you should definitely consider taking out adequate PHI cover as a matter of priority. It's expensive but not really optional given your circumstances (IMO).
Have you written your wills, EPAs etc.? They really should be put in place once kids start arriving on the scene.
If you are planning on having 2 more kids, you will really need to assess if it is practical for both parents to work, even one part time.
gnf_ireland's reference to Barbara Bunter's thread is an astute one. The numbers are broadly analogous. You should have a detailed read of those pages.
You need to get control on your spending and redirect it for a better use. As it's the end of the year, print out all your bank credit card statements and see where all your money went in the last year. Ask yourself if you everything that you spent your money on (everyone buys stuff they don't need). Then ask yourself what do you really want to do/ spend your money on in the next 5 years. You need to redirect that cash from spending it on stuff to don't need to spending/ saving it on things that are really important to your family.
Your lifestyle spend isn't 'relatively high' but is astronomical at ~1k a week.
...sorry whats EPA and do i need a will if im happy for everything to goto my wife?
Sorry, it's an Enduring Power of Attorney - basically allows you to appoint another individual (usually your spouse or another close family member) to look after both your personal healthcare and financial affairs in the event that, for any reason, you lose your mental capacity in the future. It might sound a bit OTT but it's worth putting in place at the same time as your will.
Yes, it's prudent to put wills in place for a number of reasons. If you die intestate (without leaving a will) your wife won't be able to deal with your estate until she secures a grant of probate which takes time. You can also provide for circumstances where your wife predeceases you and address the guardianship of your kid(s) in the unfortunate event that you both pass away - is there a particular relative or friend that you would want your kid(s) to live with in those circumstances?
These are relatively standard form documents that a competent solicitor could draw up in an afternoon.
Thanks PHI will be taken out in Jan, sorry whats EPA and do i need a will if im happy for everything to goto my wife?
with a focus on me continuing to push ahead with my career. i have continued to progress by actively moving roles once i have got all i can from one and trying to identify where opportunities are. im not content with where i am at currently and will continue to try and increase my earnings, although i accept there is no guarantee of that, and if i were made redundant tmrw getting another job on the same salary isnt a sure thing either. the one saving grace is that generally with my experience and background, worst case scenario on the job front is still not too bad.
i disagree that its astronomical, 500 a week each is comfortable, id easily spend more if i had it
While obviously you have enjoyed success in your career, and that comes from effort and ability, the comment about the watches strikes me as naive. Have you ever tried to sell one ?
You're spending that after having already paid mortgage, car, creche, food, bills etc.
Bonuses - ideally we would get around 50k back into our savings as a buffer and then bonuses will be used in part to pay down mortgages and in part for family holidays, life style expenditure
The pyramid narrows as you get older. What is the ratio of 46 year olds and 56 year olds to 36 year olds earning good money in your company/industry. The worst case scenario is worse when you are 47 than 37.
I don't understand why the bonuses would pay for holidays or life style expensive if you are already spending 3.5K a month on this or 42,000 a year. In fact that is in any man's book is astronomical (unless you are as others said Warren Buffet)
If you want to do what you expressed in your OP then you will have to tackle this spending. There is nowhere else for the money to come from.
I can't help but feel that you pointed out yoru spending to stop us being too hard on you but maybe you'd prefer if we were. Not in a nasty way but in a cop yourself on way. If you didn't have the financial aspirations you profess to then it wouldn't matter.
- I think the point about private education is very pertinent. And important.
- You should aim to have excellent pensions.
- you should underestand that not everybody keeps their earnings high - life can throw a curve ball at you, another poster told you this and I'll tell you the same thing
- this I consider 'fritteries' travelled well, bought nice clothes, watches, jewellery, handbags - or stuff, you don't need them. And I suspect the car goes into this category too.
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