I would really, really, strongly recommend mediation in your case, particularly based on your other query regarding taking her name off the mortgage.
You need to get out of adversarial mode and get to at least co-operative mode if not quite amicable.
A mediator works with both parties and helps them reach a mutually suitable solution. It should cost less than 2k privately or its free if you go through the Family Mediation Service.
You will still each need a solicitor but the difficult stuff is dealt with in mediation and the solicitors will draw up a legal agreement around the divorce terms which will be rubber stamped by the Court in a brief hearing.
Alternatively, you can spend a day or two in the Circuit Court with solicitors and barristers meters ticking while everything is fought over at length and at your mutual expense.