None of those adults sound all that mature to me....Have a mature adult conversation about it is all very well, until reality hits. One of my SIL's wanted to stay at home, she simple couldn't because she's a massive spender. You wouldn't believe the stuff she wastes money on. And I've a sister married and both are spenders and can't say no to their kids, getting themselves in dept for them. Then I've the BIL sole earner, wife has never spent a penny on herself because he's so bad. Having to justify spending money on cigarettes.
I don't think you can ever had a fixed view of these things. Really what I think you should do is have a fallback option at all times so that if things don't work out with plan A, you have a plan B. Each year you can review how things are going. We started off viewing it as something to be done while the children are in primary school but now we may well extend that through secondary school if the situation remains as is currently.Trying to figure out if people see this as a fixed (5yr?) arrangement or look at it differently?
...If your broke and home with your kids everyday doing stuff with them going for a cycle bring them to parks etc its better than been rich and bringing them to Disneyland . You can always get another job , but you can never get the time back with your kids you lost while working....
You might not get another job at the same level. your career might never restart.
Also people plan around one kids. But when there's more than one then all these plans extend, as do costs etc.
Its not about Disneyland. Its may be about never having any holiday, kids extra activities all cost money.
Drop a 2nd car, can affect what activities you can do on the same day. When you have 2+ kids doing say football 3 times a week, the time just disappears.
Then again, many have no option. You might have 3 kids in primary school. Someone has to look after them during the summer.
Also as the kids flee the next, or become independent, then looking after parents becomes an issue. if you think kids are expense don't look at nursing care.
People are forgetting we only work to live not vice versa , I see people stressed out ...
Sweet This post will be deleted if not edited immediately, does she have a gambling problem or something?To give you an idea my wife spends €1500-€2000 every month which excludes the mortgage and bills
I have 4 kids and budget €100 a week on groceries. I shop in Lidl most of the time as they are close to work and so I can do the shopping on my lunch break. While Tesco & Supervalue have more choice the quality of the meat, fruit and veg in Lidl is consistently better than either of them. Asian markets full the void for spices, beans and other such stuff.Grocery bills are a big spend, no matter how you try to go to Lidl\Aldi etc we end up sometimes in Tesco and Supervalue as I think the quality of some things are much better there.
Sweet This post will be deleted if not edited immediately, does she have a gambling problem or something?
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Ha, no, its all household\groceries\clothes\kids etc. I didn't mean to imply its spending on just herself.
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