"But i dont think the house should be part of the estate as its been there family home even do its only been in one persons name."
Its part of the deceased's estate.
There are any number of ways of dealing with this. Much depends on the matter of any offspring. Do any or all of them want their share? If yes, cue family fall out.
If no, they can all do a Deed of Family Arrangement after Probate to vest the property in the surviving spouse.
Or just leave it as is and years and years down the line, take out Probate to the deceased's estate and sell it when and if the need arises.
The key issue is whether any of the offspring want a share.
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