Hi Dino
Sorry for your loss.
Are the trustees aware of your wife's wishes? It is the trustees that make the decision of where the money is paid and always make sure the spouse and family are looked after. If she didn't notify the trustees beforehand, they will not know that she wanted others to be given some of the benefit and it will all be paid to you.
If they do know and feel it is a reasonable and fair request, they will pay out as per her wishes. It is taken out of the total pot of money that is paid out by the life company. If the remainder paid to you is 4 times salary or less, it is paid to you as a lump sum. If the remainder is greater than 4 times salary, you get the lump sum plus a small annuity.
Steven
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