The 1400E was figure I put down as worst case but after exporting bank account to excel the standing orders that get paid every month totals 1200 which includes everything phones etc, I still waiting for food confirmation from her who used to say she could feed a family of 5 for 60E a week how things change, So I have said to her of the 1200 divide by 4 and multiple by 3 for my 3 girls which is 900 then divide by 2 ie 2 parents, then I should pay 450E for Bill a month then just see what the food bill is, then also said I go 50% for anything else eg school books,concerts, .Tell her to stop doing the grocery shopping in M&S. Even €800 a month on groceries is excessive.
Is the mortgage, mobile phones etc included in the €1400 in monthly bills? If not then how on earth are they so high?
Are you paying rent? What are your living arrangements? You are entitled to provide a home for you and your children. Net income for both parties should be calculated after housing costs.
In fairness to her she is useless with money and always was but is good mother, I take the 300E on the chin as just easier tbh. tired mediation before and found them not to be good as would not give any advice on amount, I thought there be an excel format and you put in all details ,bills, net salaries etc and amount Between 800-1000 then you could try work from that amount.CheersIf you both had agreed to split grinds 50/50 then she cannot just change her mind - can you deduct the €300 from the money you give her. It looks like you would need a third party to decide what is fair. You both need to think of what is best for the children -I know it is easy for me to say as I am not involved. According to your side of the story it would appear that your ex wife is not a good money manager but she may feel that she has all the responsibility and is not sticking to a budget.
Is there a average for family of 4 to eat for a week, tried searching but could not find anything. 900 I would except to keep her happy, 900/4*3/2 parents = 337.5E I would pay, I should only pay 50% of my daughters costs I think and she pays for herself and 50% of her daughters. CheersTell her to stop doing the grocery shopping in M&S. Even €800 a month on groceries is excessive.
Is the mortgage, mobile phones etc included in the €1400 in monthly bills? If not then how on earth are they so high?
Are you paying rent? What are your living arrangements? You are entitled to provide a home for you and your children. Net income for both parties should be calculated after housing costs.
I have 4 kids who are with me half the time. I spend less than €100 a week on groceries including toiletries etc. I did keep it under €80 a week when I had to.Is there a average for family of 4 to eat for a week, tried searching but could not find anything. 900 I would except to keep her happy, 900/4*3/2 parents = 337.5E I would pay, I should only pay 50% of my daughters costs I think and she pays for herself and 50% of her daughters. Cheers
It seems to be around 65e-80e per child per week, I know a friend of mine has 1 child and her ex is on 80K plus and they had to go to court to sort this out and he was ordered to pay E150 a week. The E150 covers everything so she does not get anything towards school books, school trips. So E140 he is paying seems about right going by the 65e-80e ratio. But you should have this written down and signed off by the 2 of you.Hi
I hope it ok to post here on a similar topic. I'm looking for advice, I have a casual arrangement with ex husband for child support of 2 kids, 13 & 8. They are with me 95% of the time. If I average out what is paid per week (maintenance is not paid exactly every week) it works out approx €140. This does not include any additional payments for school books, uniforms, sports, Christmas etc, this is the total amount.
I feel that this is not enough, especially as the kids are eating much more & taking part in more costly sports activities. However my ex will not agree to pay anything more. Also I believe that he may decide to reduce payment because we recently no longer pay for a child minder, as I can work from home in the afternoons. (He considers paying the child minder as his only responsibility towards child care)
He earns between 45-50+k per year. Do you have any advice on whether he should be paying more?
Thanks
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