Given that you are uncovering more and more of his assets decide what you want that is best for you and the kids. Do you want to remain in your current home? Do you want to live in a particular area? Do you want your kids to have a home with their Dad that is suitable for them to stay at.
Then be clear to your solicitor what you want. I want to own a house in this area with this no of bedrooms and the reasons why and what you want your partner to commit to, living in the same area etc, sharing parenting or whatever. Hopefully he won’t have horrendous debts and that you do end up with a house that is your own. I would not consider becoming a HAP tenant of his. At all, he must have some assets to put deposits down on these houses so why would he think that his children would be approved for HAP. It seems to me he thinks he has no responsibilities towards his own children.
Then be clear to your solicitor what you want. I want to own a house in this area with this no of bedrooms and the reasons why and what you want your partner to commit to, living in the same area etc, sharing parenting or whatever. Hopefully he won’t have horrendous debts and that you do end up with a house that is your own. I would not consider becoming a HAP tenant of his. At all, he must have some assets to put deposits down on these houses so why would he think that his children would be approved for HAP. It seems to me he thinks he has no responsibilities towards his own children.