Further education might not necessarily be beneficial for him.yeah, i honestly think that if he does a course as apposed to getting a temporary job, it will broaden his future.. thanks for the link
We'll i love the bones of him,and vice-versa, i just want him to get on in life. i dont want to struggle if i was to be with him long-term.ie rest of my days..i havent forced his hand over the last 1.5 yrs, and i dont really want to now. But i cant keep going on working hard myself, when my BF doesnt even work..
But your future will not be supported by this alone.he family tell me often how much he loves and adores me..
Emma Jane,
My ex BF used to say that we will get married and have kids someday. However, it was always in the far distant future. When we got engaged, we set a wedding date for 2 yrs down the line. (He was in and out of bits of jobs, I was worn out filling applications for him, texting him phone numbers of jobs etc). I got no engagement ring, he wouldn't even move in with me, as he wanted to continue living at home (to mind his Dad).
The last straw came when I went to view a house near his home. He went to the viewing with me (I was going to sell my house & buy this one, even though it was 10 miles further away from work & my own family). Ex BF was acting funny & didn't seem to care about the house. I told him that I expected him to live with me full time in this house, as I was giving up a lot to be with him. He started looking at the ground & said he would still live at home a few days a week!!!!!
Like you, I kept on 'dating' him ( I was 31) and started booking wedding things. When it came to one year before the wedding, he asked to postpone the wedding for a further 2 yrs, as he was not 'ready', even though he was 35!!!! I finished with him there and then. If he is not 'ready' now, he may not be 'ready' in 2 yrs.
You need to stop giving ultimatums, useless when you don't follow through, and he has less respect for you when you don't carry them out.
Personally I think you need to leave him completely. If this is too difficult suggest trial separation for 3 or 6 months (no contact) and expand your own social life.
Best of luck.
thanks everyone for your opinions, i do feel that i have enough information to make an informed decision, im still deciding what to do, so when i have decided , ill send a quick post.. thanks again everyone..
It is funny to see how the 2 sexes think. Girls are with someone for a year and half and start thinking about marriage/kids while men (the ones I know anyway) marriage would not come into their head after going out with someone after 1 and half years.
Were you trying to be ironic?Ever watch Eastenders? Fella in it just watches tv all day long. Pure laziness and i cannot tolerate it. Very annoying.
It is funny to see how the 2 sexes think. Girls are with someone for a year and half and start thinking about marriage/kids while men (the ones I know anyway) marriage would not come into their head after going out with someone after 1 and half years.
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