It is downright rude and shows a lack of character not to give as much notice as she possibly can. In the end the work she does will have to be done by someone else or shared amongst her co-workers. The less time she gives the greater the burden on others.In terms of being open and transparent with her employer, should she state her intention to take the parental leave consecutively at the time when notifying them of the additional maternity leave?
Just for the record:- Moms do not get paid during Parental Leave or Additional Maternity Leave (neither do they qualify for service towards the pension in the Public Service).
Trade Unions have always promoted Maternity/Paternity Leave. We wouldn't have these leaves but for the Trade Unions.
As a working father of 4 children I was their primary caregiver when I was married (cooking, laundry, bedtime, blow drying daughters hair, sewing on buttons, etc) and now, as a single parent, I have two of them full time and two of them part time. Thankfully I taught them to cook and load a washing machine (but I still do all the ironing) so they can share the housework but I'm still the primary caregiver (though my ex-wife still gets all the children's allowance and the double tax free allowance). Amongst my friends I am in no way exceptional and, with respect, I think your views are very outdated.Most fathers find it easier to attend work than looking after childrens' matters.
It's also the societal expectation. The support structures are there (have you ever heard of a fathers and toddlers group?). To be a stay at home father is a lonely life.On the other hand most women tend to share problems and appear more willing to put career progression on ice to look after junior. That seems to be the stereotypical norm.
I feel ya. I managed to take 2 months off on our first born when my wife went back to work, went along to the local 'parent and toddler' group, and never felt more awkward. Like walking into a bar in a movie where everything freezes. Did some Jamboree baby classes, same thing.(have you ever heard of a fathers and toddlers group?). To be a stay at home father is a lonely life.
The reason for the gender pay gap is that women work shorter hours and spend fewer years in the workforce. The gender pay gap is a misnomer.I think the other issue we have here is the gender pay gap and other diversity issues within companies, meaning that the dads are most typically the higher earners, coupled with very high childcare cost, and it's often the mother who gives up work to care for the kids while dad continues to work.
because they spend more time picking kids up from creche and staying home to mind them? Is that not the spiral we're caught in?The reason for the gender pay gap is that women work shorter hours and spend fewer years in the workforce. The gender pay gap is a misnomer.
Yep, and as long as we legislate to reinforce that spiral it will stay that way.because they spend more time picking kids up from creche and staying home to mind them? Is that not the spiral we're caught in?
OK! you're female, upwardly mobile, ambitious, sacrificing motherhood for your career. That's your choice, but allow other people to have their choice too.
It's not a case of not allowing other people have their choice - I totally support maternity/paternity/parental lave etc., but I do find it unfair that when it comes to staying late/extra projects/extra travel etc., it is always landed on those without children because those with children play the "family commitments" card - there should be equality of workloads are fairness when it comes to going the extra mile, not just that everything gets landed on those without children! I think that's what can sometimes frustrate people.
It falls on those without children first and then fathers before mothers. If one person is willing to stay later, work harder and make their job/career their main priority then it is only fair that they should have better career progression and get the promotion/pay increase. The idea that someone, man or woman, should be able to take more time off, work more flexible hours and generally make their work life fit in around their personal life without it impacting on their career is nonsense.It's not a case of not allowing other people have their choice - I totally support maternity/paternity/parental lave etc., but I do find it unfair that when it comes to staying late/extra projects/extra travel etc., it is always landed on those without children because those with children play the "family commitments" card - there should be equality of workloads are fairness when it comes to going the extra mile, not just that everything gets landed on those without children! I think that's what can sometimes frustrate people.
So you think it's fair for people to have unequal workloads and unequal expectations/demands of them but get the same pay and conditions?Exactly! My main point proved. . . no more questions Your Honour.
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